Read to throw in the towel?

[DanielParul 50]

It took us 8 months to get our visa with a military expedite. We came here together and he was gone for his trainings before deploying after 2 months of us being together. We are married too and have a different kind of waiting now. But not once in the 16 months we spent apart before the visa and the 14 months we will spend apart now have we ever felt like throwing in the towel. Even the distance has strengthened our love. If you start thinking negative, its not going to be a very fulfilling and satisfying journey for you. Do you really want it? If you do then stay strong. All the best Edited September 10, 2008 by DanielParul

[Serendipity_ 0]

Hang in there. I know it's easier said than done.....

Hope and Patience is all we have

[filirican 3]

i have read someone who waited for 2 years..i think a few more months wont hurt..besides, its worth all the waiting! good luck!

[happyinlove012408 0]

Hang in there. They are now processing cases faster. I hope everybody gets an approval soon. Best of luck to you and those who are still waiting.

[ed g 0]

I feel like just throwing in the towel right now! I mean I feel exhuasted and not sure if I can stay in this for the long haul. This is too hard! How did you all get through this? I feel like just telling my husband I want to stop everything. I actually just started but our anniversary is very soon and we've been married almost a year. We messed up in the beginning so we had to start from the top. I tell you I am losing my mind! I do not know what to do anymore to feel more relaxed about waiting. I am worried because I see others who have been waiting at VSC for months or a year now and I am stuck there. This is really worrying me. I love my husband don't get me wrong but I do not know if I can do this. Should I throw in the towel and move to Pakistan or should I just give up on us all together?

Mahitab

do you have a webcam? my wife and I see each other everyday and this seems to help. it is not the same but at least we get to look in each others eyes. we also talk on the phone everyday. if your love is strong enough you can get through this

[gogo 6]

throw in the towel? are you kidding me? you can consider this as a REAL test of your love for one another.. we have been waiting over 1 year on our decision and also done a writ of mandamus.. and I will continue to pursue the government until she is here.. I'm sorry, but you barely even got your NOA1 just a month ago.. I am going to fight to the death to bring her here.. I'm not scared of the government.. they couldn't even catch one man in the mountains, if you know what I'm saying.. I should start faxing again soon if nothing comes up with the lawsuit.. only 16 more days (out of 60) though.. so NEVER GIVE UP, don't let USCIS control your lives and who you want to be with.. I seen a few people just give up the fight because it was too much for them to handle.. I say to bring the battle to them, and not let the battle come to you..

Edited September 10, 2008 by gogo

[*JG* 2]

I feel like just throwing in the towel right now! I mean I feel exhuasted and not sure if I can stay in this for the long haul. This is too hard! How did you all get through this? I feel like just telling my husband I want to stop everything. I actually just started but our anniversary is very soon and we've been married almost a year. We messed up in the beginning so we had to start from the top. I tell you I am losing my mind! I do not know what to do anymore to feel more relaxed about waiting. I am worried because I see others who have been waiting at VSC for months or a year now and I am stuck there. This is really worrying me. I love my husband don't get me wrong but I do not know if I can do this. Should I throw in the towel and move to Pakistan or should I just give up on us all together?

Mahitab

It's a long wait; but you can do this. Hang in there.

[Garu 0]

throw in the towel? are you kidding me? you can consider this as a REAL test of your love for one another.. we have been waiting over 1 year on our decision and also done a writ of mandamus.. and I will continue to pursue the government until she is here.. I'm sorry, but you barely even got your NOA1 just a month ago.. I am going to fight to the death to bring her here.. I'm not scared of the government.. they couldn't even catch one man in the mountains, if you know what I'm saying.. I should start faxing again soon if nothing comes up with the lawsuit.. only 16 more days (out of 60) though.. so NEVER GIVE UP, don't let USCIS control your lives and who you want to be with.. I seen a few people just give up the fight because it was too much for them to handle.. I say to bring the battle to them, and not let the battle come to you..

Dream Love, I know you are frustrated and venting but come on, you have been in this process for about six weeks and you already have both petitions filed and acknowledged and your file has been touched. It took me over eight weeks just for them to acknowledge receipt of the 130 with the NOA1. Didn’t anyone tell you the expectations of how long it would take to get this done?

Did someone brainwash you telling you things like “don’t worry, it will be done in a few weeks, or you can get married and come back to the U.S. with your spouse”? I wouldn’t be surprised if people told you this because they tell me all the time. Unfortunately, that is some people’s perceptions. It makes no sense for them that families can be willfully separated by USCIS for unreasonable amounts of time and that their processes are unjust and do not follow their own guidelines; some people can’t handle the truth. So they just think life is beautiful and everything happens quickly. But our reality is different.

Gogo, I don’t know much about your story other than the last few posts I have read regarding the writ of mandamus but your ordeal and the time you have waited and your struggles with USCIS should serve as an example and comfort to all of us and give us strength to continue.

Edited September 10, 2008 by Garu

[gogo 6]

thanks Garu.. just a quick summary of my case (not to take away from OP's story).. applied April 2007 (I-130), NOA1 arrived May 29, apply June 2007 (I-129F); security check (supposedly) and transferred case to Local office November 2007; faxed everyone (president, vice president, president's wife, vp's wife, senators (california, obama, hillary, whoever dealt with immigration), us attorneys, obudsman).. sent around 50+ faxes everyday.. received letter for interview at local office January (for February 21, 2008).. brought parents and the "fraud" dept ask them questions (have you met her and her family? blah blah blah).. said everything was ok and just wanted to verify (lots of fraud cases).. and told us to expect approval within 2-3 weeks after.. so after 2-3 weeks, I never received anything.. so I kept calling and they give me the run-around.. went to local office and made lots of infopasses and also created service requests / expedites on the phone with no success.. went to local office and got mad once (the supervisor there said I filed it wrong.. you aren't suppose to file both I-130, wait for NOA1, and file for I-129F).. so no point in going there.. they even had a cop come over and say : "if you raise your voice again, we will throw you out".. they also say that whenever I call them to get a service request, they take my file out of the line, respond to the service request, and put my file back at the END OF THE LINE.. and there are more stupid reasons too, so I gave up at the local office.. they also said they just received my app in May 2008 (and will start processing it now).. I go "what the hell, so what happened between November 2007 and May 2008?, and they said "we don't know"... lots of arguments with local office with nothing to show.. finally decide on doing the writ of mandamus (lawsuit)..

so I hired a lawyer (or they had a team) and they did the lawsuit and submit it (60 days from July 29, they have to give an answer).. so now it is 45 days and counting..

Edited September 10, 2008 by gogo

[gogo 6]

yeah.. my I-130 NOA1 took from April 16 (their delivery confirmation received date stamped) to May 29.. so I applied the I-129F on June 4th (received June 11th).. so about 50 days (7 weeks?) between I-130 sent and I-130 NOA1..

but enough of my story.. regarding to the OP, you should have more patience and wait it out.. normally it should take 6-8 months to get approved.. you can check out some other timelines to see for yourself.. and just follow up on everything in your case.. they are NOT KNOWN to get things done on time and you have to keep pushing them..

Edited September 10, 2008 by gogo

[Sibtain 1]

Salam Mahitab!

i knew that it would be very hard for u guys and thats wat exactly i was trying to tell ur husband.

Dont be up set inshAllah you guys will meet soon for your happy life journey.

Well at this stage i would like to tell you to just to visit to your husband in pakistan it will give u n your husband much relief.

Best of luck from my side...

Edited September 10, 2008 by SIBTAIN

[Morning Sunshine 0]

Salam Mahitab!

i knew that it would be very hard for u guys and thats wat exactly i was trying to tell ur husband.

Dont be up set inshAllah you guys will meet soon for your happy life journey.

Well at this stage i would like to tell you to just to visit to your husband in pakistan it will give u n your husband much relief.

Best of luck from my side...

Hello! Wow, so many posts today! I am shocked! I truly needed a "pick me up" today. I have been totally down in the dumps today. I am spending my ramadan alone, so it makes me feel very sad. I wish that things would hurry up. I mean I see people at CSC getting approved in a month so I was wishing Allah would be kind to me. I am not healthy so I do not know if I have lots of time to wait on an approval. My child is also ill and may have to get surgery and I was hoping my husband could be here with her. But, life is not always so simple for everyone. Please pray for me as I need it very much. I am so tired of things that I deal with here in my area due to my religion and it'd be nice to have my hubby with me. Sibtain please call Samir again! Thank you all for your comments, I wil hang in here as long as Allah wants me to hang in here.

Mahitab

[Robina 0]

Hang in there. I know how you feel. We have talked about my moving to Pakistan, but it's kind of dangerous right now. Have you contacted your Senators or Representative to ask them for help moving your case along?

[notime4haterz 0]

Salam Mahitab!

i knew that it would be very hard for u guys and thats wat exactly i was trying to tell ur husband.

Dont be up set inshAllah you guys will meet soon for your happy life journey.

Well at this stage i would like to tell you to just to visit to your husband in pakistan it will give u n your husband much relief.

Best of luck from my side...

Hello! Wow, so many posts today! I am shocked! I truly needed a "pick me up" today. I have been totally down in the dumps today. I am spending my ramadan alone, so it makes me feel very sad. I wish that things would hurry up. I mean I see people at CSC getting approved in a month so I was wishing Allah would be kind to me. I am not healthy so I do not know if I have lots of time to wait on an approval. My child is also ill and may have to get surgery and I was hoping my husband could be here with her. But, life is not always so simple for everyone. Please pray for me as I need it very much. I am so tired of things that I deal with here in my area due to my religion and it'd be nice to have my hubby with me. Sibtain please call Samir again! Thank you all for your comments, I wil hang in here as long as Allah wants me to hang in here.

Mahitab

Try to get an expedite based on your child's illness and financial hardship for the medical bills... I also spent my Ramadan alone, but that's okay. Now another month has passed by, you are that much closer to approval Inshallah.

[sara..... 371]

I know it is hard to wait and i know the frustration of it but u have to remain strong u simply can not give up because it takes a while........some of us have waiting so long and still waiting nobody knows what the out come of our life will be but if u give up now u will always wonder what if i had waited what would my life be..........just try to hang in there and try to keep busy is about the only advise i can give u

sara