Frustrated

[Aymerlu 3]

I'm not here to complain....OK yes I am , but I just want you gals to see this emotional torture I have been going though with the embassy in Cairo. We had our interview on February 14th. They told us "6 weeks you will have your visa" March 26th, I get a wild hair and email the embassy. There response is:

Dear Sir/Madam,

Thank you for sending your e-mail message, the case was pending administrative process and will be issued and send to applicant shortly.

Regards,

Consular Staff

HOLY #######! We are sooooo excited......BUT, the next morning I check my email and see this:

Dear Madam,

Thank you for your email. His case still under administrative check from Washington, once we receive his clearance, we will process the case to conclusion.

Regards,

Consular Staff

#######????? You told me yesterday it WAS PENDING

The middle of April, I decide to call the DOS and they tell me that his security checks were cleared on April 5th!! So....I email the embassy again and the response is:

Dear Madam,

Mr. XXXs case was pending a routine administrative check that was conducted at the Department of State in Washington. This check has been completed, and the consular officer will issue his visa shortly.

Regards,

Consular Staff

OMG!!!! We are excited again! My man gets a wild hair and calls TNT and the guy tells him "OH.....we will deliver to you on Saturday! We are freakin happy! BUT, Saturday comes and goes and NOTHING. Then he calls and they have no idea what he is talking about.

I email the embassy again over the weekend and now this is what they say.....

Dear Sir, (Hello....I am NOT a sir)

Thank you for your email.

Unfortunately additional administrative check is required for your case. Once we finish our procedures, we will notify you.

Regards,

Consular staff

What the he$$ is up with this? I am at work when I see this and I just fell apart. How can they play with our minds, hearts and lives like this? I did call the DOS again and the lady did verify this. When I asked why he was cleared a few weeks ago, and now the embassy sent it back to them, she had no answer for me. I really never knew I could possibly ever feel so low. I came home and cried all day today and I am sitting here at my computer crying. My head hurts and I swear I'm on the verge of a panic attack. (never had these boogers till I started this process)Before I knew he was back on checks I contacted my congressman who asked me for all his information, but I guess not that he is in checks again, nothing can be done.

I just feel lost. I have lost friends over this process (guess they were not my friends eh?) and I feel I don't have a lot of people I can talk to about this including my family. I know I relay on a lot of you gals here so I apoligize if I get on your nerves with my complaining. I just want my man with me.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Wow....I am so sorry to hear this, comparing myself to you I have no reason to complain yet. I he gets his visa soon, hang in there honey

[iceyspots 0]

I'm so sorry... I am feeling the same way these days.

[LaL 418]

awww Amy - Im sorry to hear your having difficulty. Remember its darkest just before dawn. I know at this time it does NOT help the pain go away, but keep positive, this AR WILL come to an end and you WILL get to change ur name

((((hugs))))

Laura

[MaryandMian 1]

Amy

I know you are frustrated. You can have AR and then AP or reversal. I also know that some of the security checks could of expired by the time others have cleared. It means that they have to redo some of the checks possibly.

I also know the last week of each month and the first week of the following month all cases that have been in AR/AP go into visa review meetings. It is reviewed stateside and then recommendations from DOS are sent to the consulate/embassy. The embassy then has a meeting and they will hold the application, ask for more evidence or have new checks run if they are not finalized. Once all parties are in agreement they contact the applicant via a letter to return with passort to issue the visa.

My advise is to call DOS on Thursdays for an update. This is how I found we had cleared and a letter was being sent to Ishteaq. They would not tell me the contents. He had to go back to the embassy since they had not kept his passport.

Hang in there and hugs. I had the same roller coaster ride you did.

Mary

Edited May 17, 2006 by mianishqsrose

[Omid 0]

Aymerlu,

I'm so sorry you're going through this... I'm sorry that so many of us have to go through this... this has been one of the most trying experiences of my life that's for sure...the worst part is not knowing and not being able to get any straight answers (the embassy once told me it could be 2 hrs, 2 wks or 2 yrs!!!) and unfortunately most people don't understand what it's like in our shoes, not even family members or true friends who try to be supportive... I'm so grateful for this website - Mary has especially been a blessing - we're going through it with you or some others have gone through it and others are about to begin - the support here is amazing...

I pray that we all get through this insha'ALlah - preferably sane... and I just try to remember that I need to take it one day at a time... eventually our guys will be with us insha'Allah

Hang in there.

[djcess 0]

sucks big time! sorry to hear that..

[LebaneseMama 1]

Have you contacetd your congressmen or senator ? When I was going crazy they answered all of my questions that I couldnt get answerd through NVC or the embassy. Maybe they can tell you what's really going on. Good luck !

[Meriem_DZ 37]

Man, they are soooooooo cruel. They have no idea, or they dont care, what they do to people's lives. I am sorry this is happening to you. I hope and pray it is resolved soon. You deserve good news for Goodness sake!!

Meriem

[noura 0]

Amy, I'm sorry for this unpleasant roller coaster ride you're on... insh'allah, it will come to an end soon and Khalid will be w/ you before long. Just know that we are here for you and we *do* understand! No one else who isn't in our shoes will ever understand what we are going thru....

(((((hugs)))))

keep ur chin up, honey!

Noura

[Aymerlu 3]

Have you contacetd your congressmen or senator ? When I was going crazy they answered all of my questions that I couldnt get answerd through NVC or the embassy. Maybe they can tell you what's really going on. Good luck !

Yes, I did contact my congressman and he sent me a letter requesting all his info, case number, etc. which I did send to him. However.....this was before he case went back into checks again. I've been told that once in checks, there is nothing a congressman can do. I called his office today and told them there was a change in the case, gave them the details and they asked to see all the conflicting emails. Maybe one he is out of checks and they take their time, something can be done then.

[Together4ever 1]

Amy, I talked with Mohammed about this tonight. He said that he is really feeling you both. He's with you too. One thing we have discussed often now is that it appears whoever answers the emails out of Cairo is not American, or English is not their mother tongue. The wording is always a wee bit "different" then your run of the mill American. This really confounds things. We need to take the words very literally and the statements are so..... CONFUSING... its hard to really fully grasp what the heck they mean. I have asked several times for clarifications and of course they never come.

I really would venture to bet one of the checks simply expired and they are rerunning it. Believe me, even though we haven't been waiting as long as you have, I have danced on the edge of several melt downs. I know what you're feeling. But Amy, just hang tight. This information has really knocked you for a loop. You've seen it happen to me. Cry it out, stay close to those who can hold you up until you can stand on your own again, and you will see it's all going to be okay.

This is a damn brutal ride we are all on. I have taken the personal vow to just sit now in the silence of not knowing anything but that will Mohammed WILL come (I won't accept anything less) and that I do not know when that will be... but he will come. Please do the same. A delay is not a denial. And you do have friends here who understand and who can support you. Hell... we can sit and cry together!

VIVA LA EGYPT... pfft

[morocco4ever 63]

Hang in there, it will be over soon, they just like to make us suffer. Be strong and your sweety will be with you soon.

[~kiyah~ 14]

Yes, they do seem to enjoy the suffering. I can also relate to losing friends...or so-called friends over this. Just_waiting is most likely right...one of the checks could have expired and they need to do it again. Please hang in there Amy...it will happen insh'allah , will be very soon.

~Kiya~

[crazyinEgypt 0]

Oh Amy, I am sorry you are going through this. At least Amr and I have not get all the conficting info. All they told him was that he was dead! LOL! I really think there was more organization at my dogs training school than there is at that embassy! I really feel for you hun, I can't imagine what I would be doing or how I would be feeling if I could not be here with Amr. Remember, our offer still stands, we would love to see you and the kids!