Bickering in MENA

[Captain Ewok 1,871]

As I am sure you can agree it has gotten out of control. I know some members do not like other members. That happens often in the real world and just like there you have to learn to pick your battles and to simply chose not to interact and fuel fires with gas (so to speak). I am saying this because I strongly believe that people should be able (within the TOS) speak their opinions on any subject however you can chose to listen or debate or accept what they say. The problem is when it leads to bickering and fighting. Once that happens it becomes a distraction for the board (in a bad way).

Anyhow I want to remind everyone of the ignore feature in the control panel. It allows you to add people and then all their posts and topics wil be hidden. I am not saying you should go and put people on that list -- but it is a feature worth noting.

[Marlita 0]

I think people who cant take the heat should keep outta the kitchen. meaning, if you dont like a thread that is not violating TOS keep yuh raas way! Why go into the thread and stir the pot and cause all the confusion and bickering? I've seen worse threads on VJ, than the ones stating how hot your man is and those run just fine on VJ. This is childish.

[Rocketta 0]

Well I think allowing certain posters to derail threads should be a violation of TOS once someone posts their opinions then that should be it but apparently some get to post them over and over and over like their word is the truth and law. Seems to me if you stopped allowing the trolling certain groups would be allowed to bicker? I know I would never go into a thread I didn't agree with and spend the majority of my time but hey that's just me.

[~Jackie~ 30]

This just might not be the thread to continue discussion in

Thx Capn. I'm sure things will settle down around here.

Jackie

Edited July 1, 2008 by just_Jackie

[Rocketta 0]

I think people who cant take the heat should keep outta the kitchen. meaning, if you dont like a thread that is not violating TOS keep yuh raas way! Why go into the thread and stir the pot and cause all the confusion and bickering? I've seen worse threads on VJ, than the ones stating how hot your man is and those run just fine on VJ. This is childish.

It's what is leading to the bickering. Someone only need give their opinion once on a subject after that it's TROLLING. Apparently name calling is wrong but trolling hey that's all good as long as you say it's just your opinion and you are using your free speech.

[rebeccajo 14]

Shut down the Regional Forums.

Problem solved.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I think people who cant take the heat should keep outta the kitchen. meaning, if you dont like a thread that is not violating TOS keep yuh raas way! Why go into the thread and stir the pot and cause all the confusion and bickering? I've seen worse threads on VJ, than the ones stating how hot your man is and those run just fine on VJ. This is childish.

We remodeled the kitchen. It's much more user friendly now. OT is a happy place and much more fitting for expressing your hotnesses in and out of the kitchen.

Thx jackie, mags, capt'n!

Edited July 1, 2008 by Virtual wife

[Marlita 0]

Well I think allowing certain posters to derail threads should be a violation of TOS once someone posts their opinions then that should be it but apparently some get to post them over and over and over like their word is the truth and law. Seems to me if you stopped allowing the trolling certain groups would be allowed to bicker? I know I would never go into a thread I didn't agree with and spend the majority of my time but hey that's just me.

I agree. I'm not even apart of the MENA group so I have no sides. I saw the thread about my hot husband and thought it was really cute. All of a sudden it went down hill. So I wasnt sure if the word Arab was offensive cause for the life of me I could not figure out why speaking about your husband of another culture besides the American one, on a immgration site, could be so offensive. Go figure. If i had a hot American husband I'd let him know it too.

Anyway it was VERY apparent how the thread was going down and who was bringing it down. Ewok, I think it would've been very beneficial and fair (if this was not done already) to PM that person and let them know how they can stop provoking fights and just stay out of the thread.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

I think people who cant take the heat should keep outta the kitchen. meaning, if you dont like a thread that is not violating TOS keep yuh raas way! Why go into the thread and stir the pot and cause all the confusion and bickering? I've seen worse threads on VJ, than the ones stating how hot your man is and those run just fine on VJ. This is childish.

It's what is leading to the bickering. Someone only need give their opinion once on a subject after that it's TROLLING. Apparently name calling is wrong but trolling hey that's all good as long as you say it's just your opinion and you are using your free speech.

Try expressing your opinion only once in a thread and let me know how that works for you. You've posted your view in this one twice already.

Moving on . . .

[Mags 112]

Well I think allowing certain posters to derail threads should be a violation of TOS once someone posts their opinions then that should be it but apparently some get to post them over and over and over like their word is the truth and law. Seems to me if you stopped allowing the trolling certain groups would be allowed to bicker? I know I would never go into a thread I didn't agree with and spend the majority of my time but hey that's just me.

This thread is just a request for ALL who frequent MENA to have a bit more respect for one another. No one is being singled out, it applies to everyone.

This thread wasn't started so people could continue on with the bickering started in another thread. It is a polite request for members to have a bit more respect and if they don't like someone steer clear of them and their topics.

So, move on and don't use this thread to continue the previous subject.

Edited July 1, 2008 by Mags

[sara535 15]

I'm gonna sing kum-by-ah now.

[Badrs Love 0]

I'm gonna sing kum-by-ah now.

Are you sure? It does have the Lord in it. Someone in MENA might take offense to that. LOL

[Marlita 0]

I think people who cant take the heat should keep outta the kitchen. meaning, if you dont like a thread that is not violating TOS keep yuh raas way! Why go into the thread and stir the pot and cause all the confusion and bickering? I've seen worse threads on VJ, than the ones stating how hot your man is and those run just fine on VJ. This is childish.

It's what is leading to the bickering. Someone only need give their opinion once on a subject after that it's TROLLING. Apparently name calling is wrong but trolling hey that's all good as long as you say it's just your opinion and you are using your free speech.

Try expressing your opinion only once in a thread and let me know how that works for you. You've posted your view in this one twice already.

Moving on . . .

Well so have you so what is the difference.

[S and S 12]

I'm gonna sing kum-by-ah now.

Good idea Shouldn't we all?

What was that song "We are the world, we are the children....."?

[Rocketta 0]

This thread is just a request for ALL who frequent MENA to have a bit more respect for one another. No one is being singled out, it applies to everyone.

This thread wasn't started so people could continue on with the bickering started in another thread. It is a polite request for members to have a bit more respect and if they don't like someone steer clear of them and their topics.

So, move on and don't use this thread to continue the previous subject.

oh really is it a request for all? I question that based on previous experience? Were you the one who changed the title of my forum was that a polite, nice way of saying move on to the people who were trolling the thread? Do you think that helped keep the peace in MENA or only appeased those who were doing the derailing. It's one thing to ask for peace but another when your not willing to apply rules equally and fairly to establish this peace. And this is a new subject a subject about the fairness of moderation on this site and ways to end the bickering?