Victor Obinna Ezike Jr.

[4theloveofhenry 8]

Sorry! That was a bit harsh. Ido not know that you are judgemental and I shoudl not have called you that however your response came off like that and I just get tired of people alway fighting and putting each other down here. I hate injustice and unfairness as well. So please accept my apology and judgment of you!

Cant people express themselves anymore? I am married to a Nigerian but have 3 african children, one from Ghana, a Guinean, and now a Nigerian but I still realize the validity of their feelings. I am not saying I agree but I can understand why they may feel this way(stories, gossip, rumors, ) whatever the reasons behind it, they have these feelings. I dont think it helps to bash someones feelings. I could bash yours right now but I try to practice what I preach so therefore I am trying to understand where you are coming from(your husband is foreign, you love him, you are protective of his feelings, you hate injustice and discrimination) Whatever the reason, you feel strongly but so does everyone with a opinion. Cant we ever express ourselves without putting the opinion of others down ? Does your husband know you are judgemental? Does my husband know I think Mexican guys are the finest thing since sliced bread? Or that my temper is still pretty bad?

Even though I am married to a Cameroonian, I am highly suspicious of most other women's relationships with africans... funny huh? Just because I have a successful one, doesn't mean I recommend it...

How nice for you, your own special brand of DISCRIMINATION, do you plan to market that to others? Does your African husband know about your DISCRIMITORY side?

[Truth be Told 0]

Sorry! That was a bit harsh. Ido not know that you are judgemental and I shoudl not have called you that however your response came off like that and I just get tired of people alway fighting and putting each other down here. I hate injustice and unfairness as well. So please accept my apology and judgment of you!

Cant people express themselves anymore? I am married to a Nigerian but have 3 african children, one from Ghana, a Guinean, and now a Nigerian but I still realize the validity of their feelings. I am not saying I agree but I can understand why they may feel this way(stories, gossip, rumors, ) whatever the reasons behind it, they have these feelings. I dont think it helps to bash someones feelings. I could bash yours right now but I try to practice what I preach so therefore I am trying to understand where you are coming from(your husband is foreign, you love him, you are protective of his feelings, you hate injustice and discrimination) Whatever the reason, you feel strongly but so does everyone with a opinion. Cant we ever express ourselves without putting the opinion of others down ? Does your husband know you are judgemental? Does my husband know I think Mexican guys are the finest thing since sliced bread? Or that my temper is still pretty bad?

Even though I am married to a Cameroonian, I am highly suspicious of most other women's relationships with africans... funny huh? Just because I have a successful one, doesn't mean I recommend it...

How nice for you, your own special brand of DISCRIMINATION, do you plan to market that to others? Does your African husband know about your DISCRIMITORY side?

4thelove, no offence taken

[4theloveofhenry 8]

I will disagree with thaty. A jab at someone is far diffrent than a expression. That is like saying a bully is only trying to persuade the victim.

Cant people express themselves anymore?

YEP!! people can express themselves that is exactly what I was doing!!!!

So tell me at what point does discrimination become racism ?? When is that EVER ok?

Peace

Well 4thelove, Sorry for your former problem...did you ever think that perhaps I might know know to the story of Idontcare...

Peace

And I might KNOW KNOW more than you think.....

[Truth be Told 0]

I will disagree with thaty. A jab at someone is far diffrent than a expression. That is like saying a bully is only trying to persuade the victim.

Cant people express themselves anymore?

YEP!! people can express themselves that is exactly what I was doing!!!!

So tell me at what point does discrimination become racism ?? When is that EVER ok?

Peace

Well 4thelove, Sorry for your former problem...did you ever think that perhaps I might know know to the story of Idontcare...

Peace

And I might KNOW KNOW more than you think.....

You can disagree all you like that is the beauty of an open forum.

[idocare 3]

I would love to go on Dr. Phil, Tyra, or any show that will have me to tell my story. Please, do me a favor and arrange it for me, send him all of my post or what ever you want, ( as long as it my personal posting and it's the truth as I wrote it ) I challenge you to get me on one of those shows, maybe you and others can also appear ( and send him what you have written in response to what I've written ) You can reach me thru this site by e-mail or the mail board. If I'm invited to appear I'll jump on it !!!! You have my word right now in this thread. So hook me up girl !!!!!

I'll be waiting for your e-mail with details on how to reach which ever show you may be able to get us /me on.

Thanks, Ms. Ezike

Edited June 17, 2008 by idocare

[4theloveofhenry 8]

Right! Lovely aint it!

I will disagree with thaty. A jab at someone is far diffrent than a expression. That is like saying a bully is only trying to persuade the victim.

Cant people express themselves anymore?

YEP!! people can express themselves that is exactly what I was doing!!!!

So tell me at what point does discrimination become racism ?? When is that EVER ok?

Peace

Well 4thelove, Sorry for your former problem...did you ever think that perhaps I might know know to the story of Idontcare...

Peace

And I might KNOW KNOW more than you think.....

You can disagree all you like that is the beauty of an open forum.

[Truth be Told 0]

I would love to go on Dr. Phil, Tyra, or any show that will have me to tell my story. Please, do me a favor and arrange it for me, send him all of my post or what ever you want, ( as long as it my personal posting and it's the truth as I wrote it ) I challenge you to get me on one of those shows, maybe you and others can also appear ( and send him what you have written in response to what I've written ) You can reach me thru this site by e-mail or the mail board. If I'm invited to appear I'll jump on it !!!! You have my word right now in this thread. So hook me up girl !!!!!

I'll be waiting for your e-mail with details on how to reach which ever show you may be able to get us me on.

Thanks, Ms. Ezike

Just what I expected from you, damn I gave you the link. Are you afraid to tell him your story? You have no problem blabbing it all over VJ. Come on you want to make an impact on peoples lives then fill out the application and do it. What are you afraid of? Interesting how you keep the name of the man you despise so....

[4theloveofhenry 8]

I am sorry you get all this bashing all the time! I am sorry becuase I believe your intentions are well. It is just like a teenage whos mother tells her that her boyfriend is no good. She may have proof or she not not, she may only be going on personal feeling, but any advice is only going to make the teen angry and lash out. Keep doing what you are doing. I have not seen you bash anyone, you are only trying to make valid points and post warning signs. I respect your courage and determination. And if your message help anyone out there than good for you and them.

I would love to go on Dr. Phil, Tyra, or any show that will have me to tell my story. Please, do me a favor and arrange it for me, send him all of my post or what ever you want, ( as long as it my personal posting and it's the truth as I wrote it ) I challenge you to get me on one of those shows, maybe you and others can also appear ( and send him what you have written in response to what I've written ) You can reach me thru this site by e-mail or the mail board. If I'm invited to appear I'll jump on it !!!! You have my word right now in this thread. So hook me up girl !!!!!

I'll be waiting for your e-mail with details on how to reach which ever show you may be able to get us /me on.

Thanks, Ms. Ezike

[Truth be Told 0]

I am sorry you get all this bashing all the time! I am sorry becuase I believe your intentions are well. It is just like a teenage whos mother tells her that her boyfriend is no good. She may have proof or she not not, she may only be going on personal feeling, but any advice is only going to make the teen angry and lash out. Keep doing what you are doing. I have not seen you bash anyone, you are only trying to make valid points and post warning signs. I respect your courage and determination. And if your message help anyone out there than good for you and them.

NO I wont go to my room **stomps foot like "angry teen"**

[idocare 3]

I'm sending you a challenge to get me on anyones show. I'm not gonna do the work for the job that I have challenged to you! Hey tell you what, I don't mind you posting the acceptance letter from what ever show but please send it to me personally also so that I will know how to contact whomever.

I promise to also post the date and time that I will be talking to whom ever if you don't do post it first.

Thanks again

[Truth be Told 0]

I'm sending you a challenge to get me on anyones show. I'm not gonna do the work for the job that I have challenged to you! Hey tell you what, I don't mind you posting the acceptance letter from what ever show but please send it to me personally also so that I will know how to contact whomever.

I promise to also post the date and time that I will be talking to whom ever if you don't do post it first.

Thanks again

Actually I extended the challenge first but I know you have your own brand of truth. I knew that you would never have the nerve to do it yourself, you have too much to hide. I guess your "importance" of getting your story told to "prevent others from the evils of Nigerians" is really not a priority to you. You just want to jump on ole VJ when a holiday passes and the bitterness overtakes your heart. I have so much pity for you.

***FYI when your son gets older and Googles him name (like most kids do) these threads will pop up, are you prepared to answer those questions?***

[Enlighten one :) 5]

I believe instead of predicting to all they are being scammed, it would be helpful to advise on how to avoid scammers and how to look for red flags,

how to have some common sense.

[/quote]

Red Flags on Being Scammed:

If your Significant Other spells out his name and birth date on an immigration application incorrectly and calls them typos at the same time he lost his passport.

If such a simple life of being poor in Africa without a job, has so much complication and drama of the life of a full time working single mother in America, you are being scammed.

He sends you a gift from Africa.

You met him in a cyber cafe chatting and now he needs money from you to continue chatting.

He dresses like GQ in his pictures, but doesn't have a job. (his priorities are messed up)

You have been in a dozen messed up relationships here in the US that you are relieved to have a SO without a job that you will spend thousands traveling to see, support and get here to America. If your relationships were not good in America they will not be good overseas.

Real men/women are imbedded in their community whether rich or poor. If they are dying to get out of where they at, they will be dying to get out of where you live.

If right before your SO's timely interview, medical appointment, or anything else that has your right on the edge of getting him here claims to be robbed and you need to send him money right away.

If he talks about moving back to his country after a few years. This is to take away your worry about him not wanting to just come to america. My friend met her SO here in AMerica. Married him. As soon as his papers were dry he left her. She told me that they were going to move back to africa during there relationship. Right there a red flag was flowing. My red flag was correct.

If you can answer yes to any of the above, you might be being scammed.

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

And what is wrong with moving to Africa ? My SO and I have talked about it and it is as much my idea as his. Once you get out of Lagos and into the countryside it really is a beautiful place. If you are travelling back and forth so you can do medical and such stateside and have a well contstructed residence with a few required conviences it is a much cheaper place to retire than the US.

Getting robbed in Nigeria is something that happens. Joseph was robbed and cut, but he wasn't looking for money when he told me . It just happened and he was informing me. I have only sent money 3 times,for birthday and holidays. He doesn't ask for money although I know I will end up buying the ticket when he get approved as the ticket would be many months of his income.

Having been to Nigeria, the question is what is anyone doing online looking for love ? It isn't like here where people are home from a decent days work and just relaxing. It is they have decided their job is to leave Nigeria and they are online "working" that chore of getting out of country. If someone meets someone online and has no way of knowing their background and get married after just meeting then they are taking the risk. You would probably have as much luck asking someone to marry you at the movies. Online relationships are riskier by nature. If a person chooses to pursue them then they should take responsibility for assuming that risk. You are porbably one of several "leads" they are following to complete their immigration task. First one with the visa wins.

[Truth be Told 0]

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I believe instead of predicting to all they are being scammed, it would be helpful to advise on how to avoid scammers and how to look for red flags,

how to have some common sense.

[/quote]

Red Flags on Being Scammed:

If your Significant Other spells out his name and birth date on an immigration application incorrectly and calls them typos at the same time he lost his passport.

If such a simple life of being poor in Africa without a job, has so much complication and drama of the life of a full time working single mother in America, you are being scammed.

He sends you a gift from Africa.

You met him in a cyber cafe chatting and now he needs money from you to continue chatting.

He dresses like GQ in his pictures, but doesn't have a job. (his priorities are messed up)

You have been in a dozen messed up relationships here in the US that you are relieved to have a SO without a job that you will spend thousands traveling to see, support and get here to America. If your relationships were not good in America they will not be good overseas.

Real men/women are imbedded in their community whether rich or poor. If they are dying to get out of where they at, they will be dying to get out of where you live.

If right before your SO's timely interview, medical appointment, or anything else that has your right on the edge of getting him here claims to be robbed and you need to send him money right away.

If he talks about moving back to his country after a few years. This is to take away your worry about him not wanting to just come to america. My friend met her SO here in AMerica. Married him. As soon as his papers were dry he left her. She told me that they were going to move back to africa during there relationship. Right there a red flag was flowing. My red flag was correct.

If you can answer yes to any of the above, you might be being scammed.

Sounds like "you might be a Redneck..." are you realatd to Jeff Foxworthy? am pretty sure that he has some kind of trademark, posing as him under the guise of "you might be a scammer if..." could get you in trouble with copyright laws.

[idocare 3]

I enjoyed Nigeria while I was there. The second time I was there we did move around more. I especially enjoyed going to the beach and sitting out there, looking at the water and watching the local people relax. I agree, with a few of the luxuries from America I could also live comfortable there, not to mention that a retirement check would go much farther there then here.