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Some people think it's strange that I met my wife on the internet when she was in China looking to meet a western husband.

Personally, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with such a party. Now if a couple enters into a fraudulent relationship for an immigration benefit, shame on them but I expect many a bona fide relationship has begun at such a party. Why assume it's all about sham relationships. J1 visa holders are people too.

The way you met your fiance(e) or spouse has nothing to do with how genuine the relationship, and frankly, I'm getting tired of relationship snobbery/bigotry being displayed on VJ by some of its members.

Let's have some "sensitivity" here. The next time I read about "Heck, some people meet on the internet and make the decision to marry in advance of meeting in person." I swear I'm going to come unglued. My wife and I are two of those people and I know plenty more happy marriages that followed the same path. Get over yourselves already!

what i disagree with is the fact that most of them come on another type of visa and are looking to marry usa person so that they can legally become usa citizen.......if u meet someone and fall in love with them it does not matter how u meet..........i met perviz on Internet site and did so intentionally .......it is the reasoning behind the "looking for usa husband or wife that gets me"..........i do not know where ur from i mean what state but here on the west coast i get so irritated at the people from Mexico legals and non legals that are just looking for citizenship and it happens a lot here...........im most cases after that guy has his green card he takes off and im not being a bigot i myself am Latin........ :whistle:

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Some people think it's strange that I met my wife on the internet when she was in China looking to meet a western husband.

Personally, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with such a party. Now if a couple enters into a fraudulent relationship for an immigration benefit, shame on them but I expect many a bona fide relationship has begun at such a party. Why assume it's all about sham relationships. J1 visa holders are people too.

The way you met your fiance(e) or spouse has nothing to do with how genuine the relationship, and frankly, I'm getting tired of relationship snobbery/bigotry being displayed on VJ by some of its members.

Let's have some "sensitivity" here. The next time I read about "Heck, some people meet on the internet and make the decision to marry in advance of meeting in person." I swear I'm going to come unglued. My wife and I are two of those people and I know plenty more happy marriages that followed the same path. Get over yourselves already!

No one is talking about u....get over yourself already!

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Some people think it's strange that I met my wife on the internet when she was in China looking to meet a western husband.

Personally, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with such a party. Now if a couple enters into a fraudulent relationship for an immigration benefit, shame on them but I expect many a bona fide relationship has begun at such a party. Why assume it's all about sham relationships. J1 visa holders are people too.

The way you met your fiance(e) or spouse has nothing to do with how genuine the relationship, and frankly, I'm getting tired of relationship snobbery/bigotry being displayed on VJ by some of its members.

Let's have some "sensitivity" here. The next time I read about "Heck, some people meet on the internet and make the decision to marry in advance of meeting in person." I swear I'm going to come unglued. My wife and I are two of those people and I know plenty more happy marriages that followed the same path. Get over yourselves already!

No one is talking about u....get over yourself already!

You're being a snob about how people meet. My wife wasn't here on another visa type wanting to stay but she was certainly looking for an American husband. Please separate how people meet and why from whether their relationship is bona fide or not. The party isn't the problem. Fraudulent and bona fide relationships come out of all methods of meeting, not just the one's any given individual is open to for themselves.

These J1 visa holders came here legally. They would like to stay by way of finding a USC spouse. There is nothing at all dishonorable in this desire or in having a party to facilitate such possibilities. There's no need to then assume that the relationships born there will be less bona fide than your own. Only actual fraudulent actions are fraudulent and those can come from any method of meeting.

You have a right to be pissed off and to express it. So do I and so I am.

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My opinion is that you need to look at each case individually. Some people are not looking for an easy way to the US. People just have their preferences. Different people are attracted to different types, asian, latin etc. Just because they are looking for that type doesn't mean they are looking for an easy way to the US.

Me and my wife met by chance when I was working in Buenos Aires. I was not looking for anyone, but I do have a preference for Latin woman. And she has a preference for men from anywhere besides Argentina. She just does not like the men from Argentina. Her opinion, in general, they do not treat women very good. But she is not looking for a way to the US. In fact we have talked about, years down the road, when I retire, to move back to Buenos Aires.

So I think you need to look at each case individually. Just because someone is looking for someone from a particular part of the world does not mean they are trying to do something wrong, sometimes it is just their preference.

4-29-08 - Mailed I-130 & I-129F together to CSC

CSC

I-130 I-129F

5-01-08 - NOA1 5-02-08 - NOA1

5-04-08 - Touched 5-06-08 - Touched

5-05-08 - Rcvd NOA1 in mail 5-08-08 - Rcvd NOA1 in mail

5-14-08 - Touched 5-14-08 - Touched

5-20-08 - Touched

5-29-08 - NOA2................................5-29-08 - NOA2

5-30-08 - Touched............................5-30-08 - Touched

6-02-08 - Rcvd NOA2 hardcopy..........6-02-08 - Rcvd NOA2 hardcopy

NVC

6-05-08 - NVC rcvd, new # & IIN.......6-04-08 - NVC rcvd, new #

6-15-08 - NVC invoiced AOS..............6-09-08 - Shipped DHL to Bs. As.

6-15-08 - Paid AOS online..................6-11-08 - Dlvd to Embassy

6-15-08 - Sent DS-3032 email...........6-17-08 - Received e-mail Packet 3

6-17-08 - AOS shows PAID!!!............6-25-08 - Turnned in Packet 3

6-17-08 - Sent AOS pkg Fed Ex.........7-11-08 - Medical

6-23-08 - DS-3032 accepted..............8-14-08 - Interview!!!

6-26-08 - NVC says my I-864EZ is not original Signature (BS!!!)

6-28-08 - IV bill invoiced online.

7-01-08 - Paid IV Bill online

7-01-08 - Re-sent I-864EZ

7-02-08 - IV Bill show "Paid"

7-02-08 - NVC Received I-864EZ, again!!

7-03-08 - Sent DS-230 via FedEx.

7-03-08 - NVC recieves and enters new I-864EZ

7-07-08 - NVC receives and enters DS-230

7-16-08 - CASE COMPLETE!!!!

8-14-08 - Interview. APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!

8-19-08 - POE, Washington DC.

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My opinion is that you need to look at each case individually. Some people are not looking for an easy way to the US. People just have their preferences. Different people are attracted to different types, asian, latin etc. Just because they are looking for that type doesn't mean they are looking for an easy way to the US.

Me and my wife met by chance when I was working in Buenos Aires. I was not looking for anyone, but I do have a preference for Latin woman. And she has a preference for men from anywhere besides Argentina. She just does not like the men from Argentina. Her opinion, in general, they do not treat women very good. But she is not looking for a way to the US. In fact we have talked about, years down the road, when I retire, to move back to Buenos Aires.

So I think you need to look at each case individually. Just because someone is looking for someone from a particular part of the world does not mean they are trying to do something wrong, sometimes it is just their preference.

There's nothing wrong with looking for an easy way to the US, as long as it's legal and if relationship based, the relationship is bona fide.

If a person is going to be "pissed off" about a party, they might as well be "pissed off" about international dating websites too. The purpose is the same, to facilitate meeting and a potential future relationship.

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There's nothing wrong with looking for an easy way to the US, as long as it's legal and if relationship based, the relationship is bona fide.

If a person is going to be "pissed off" about a party, they might as well be "pissed off" about international dating websites too. The purpose is the same, to facilitate meeting and a potential future relationship.

Like you said earlier, I have a right to be pissed off...so let me be pissed off. No one said anything about international dating websites. And you have no idea how i met my husband...so you need to quit calling me a snob. Like i said before, I have lurked on this site for a few months now and the majority of the posts i've read that were written by you could be called "snobbish" As a matter of fact, as i was writing my original post, I thought that if anyone would have anything rude to say it would be you. You have a right to express your opinion but dont call me a snob or anything else because u dont know me or anything about me. So please memorize my name now and make sure that in the future you dont say anything to me because I really dont want to hear it and you will not get a response. I'm done.

Good day...

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There's nothing wrong with looking for an easy way to the US, as long as it's legal and if relationship based, the relationship is bona fide.

If a person is going to be "pissed off" about a party, they might as well be "pissed off" about international dating websites too. The purpose is the same, to facilitate meeting and a potential future relationship.

Like you said earlier, I have a right to be pissed off...so let me be pissed off. No one said anything about international dating websites. And you have no idea how i met my husband...so you need to quit calling me a snob. Like i said before, I have lurked on this site for a few months now and the majority of the posts i've read that were written by you could be called "snobbish" As a matter of fact, as i was writing my original post, I thought that if anyone would have anything rude to say it would be you. You have a right to express your opinion but dont call me a snob or anything else because u dont know me or anything about me. So please memorize my name now and make sure that in the future you dont say anything to me because I really dont want to hear it and you will not get a response. I'm done.

Good day...

Ok, he does not know anything about you or your situation. But in the same respect, you do not know anything about the people at the party or their situation. They may not be looking for an illegal way to the US, The could just have a preference for the particular type of person. So you are also jumping to conclusions. So there is really nothing to be pissed about, unless they said that they were just looking for a way to stay in the US and did not care if they loved the person or not.

4-29-08 - Mailed I-130 & I-129F together to CSC

CSC

I-130 I-129F

5-01-08 - NOA1 5-02-08 - NOA1

5-04-08 - Touched 5-06-08 - Touched

5-05-08 - Rcvd NOA1 in mail 5-08-08 - Rcvd NOA1 in mail

5-14-08 - Touched 5-14-08 - Touched

5-20-08 - Touched

5-29-08 - NOA2................................5-29-08 - NOA2

5-30-08 - Touched............................5-30-08 - Touched

6-02-08 - Rcvd NOA2 hardcopy..........6-02-08 - Rcvd NOA2 hardcopy

NVC

6-05-08 - NVC rcvd, new # & IIN.......6-04-08 - NVC rcvd, new #

6-15-08 - NVC invoiced AOS..............6-09-08 - Shipped DHL to Bs. As.

6-15-08 - Paid AOS online..................6-11-08 - Dlvd to Embassy

6-15-08 - Sent DS-3032 email...........6-17-08 - Received e-mail Packet 3

6-17-08 - AOS shows PAID!!!............6-25-08 - Turnned in Packet 3

6-17-08 - Sent AOS pkg Fed Ex.........7-11-08 - Medical

6-23-08 - DS-3032 accepted..............8-14-08 - Interview!!!

6-26-08 - NVC says my I-864EZ is not original Signature (BS!!!)

6-28-08 - IV bill invoiced online.

7-01-08 - Paid IV Bill online

7-01-08 - Re-sent I-864EZ

7-02-08 - IV Bill show "Paid"

7-02-08 - NVC Received I-864EZ, again!!

7-03-08 - Sent DS-230 via FedEx.

7-03-08 - NVC recieves and enters new I-864EZ

7-07-08 - NVC receives and enters DS-230

7-16-08 - CASE COMPLETE!!!!

8-14-08 - Interview. APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!

8-19-08 - POE, Washington DC.

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Some people think it's strange that I met my wife on the internet when she was in China looking to meet a western husband.

Personally, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with such a party. Now if a couple enters into a fraudulent relationship for an immigration benefit, shame on them but I expect many a bona fide relationship has begun at such a party. Why assume it's all about sham relationships. J1 visa holders are people too.

The way you met your fiance(e) or spouse has nothing to do with how genuine the relationship, and frankly, I'm getting tired of relationship snobbery/bigotry being displayed on VJ by some of its members.

Let's have some "sensitivity" here. The next time I read about "Heck, some people meet on the internet and make the decision to marry in advance of meeting in person." I swear I'm going to come unglued. My wife and I are two of those people and I know plenty more happy marriages that followed the same path. Get over yourselves already!

Well you are clearly not alone. We are one of them too and met each other on an online forum. Culturally and religiously it wasn't possible for me and my husband to 'meet' and get to know each other more physcially before deciding to get married. We had decided we wanted to be together way before we had met and yes that kind of love is still out there. Of course when we actually met it was a nice surprise but it was only because the families wanted to meet officially and in two days we got married. People who are desperate to get to the US and use marriage to a USC as their tool should be held accountable by some way but its hard to put your hand on something real. Some marriages work out and some don't. Besides, whoever is abusing the system will have to pay for it. I understand the frustration here but if I guess no one who is actually taking money for this will ever declare it. No use burning all those nerves over it.

My Timeline

I-130:

Sent: May 19th 2008

NOA2: July 21st 2008

NVC

Received: July 24th 2008

Case completed: August 13th 2008

Interview: October 7th 2008

Green card received: January 20th 2009

I-751

Sent: October 6th 2010

Approval: January 28th 2011

Green Card received: February 3rd 2011

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Imagine.....

If all the people out there applying for visas for the wrong reason. If they were taken out of the equation immagine how fast our visas might be processes......

¨*:•.(¯`'•.¸ K-1¸.•'´¯) .•:*¨

~ 07/05/06 - Met Hayz online by accident

~ 03/30/08 - Packet sent to VSC

~ 04/22/08 - NOA1 issued - Yeah they took it this time

~ 05/22/08 - Touch

~ 07/25/08 - Touch (showed about 1pm on the USCIS site)

~ 07/25/08 - NOA2 sent (must have been later in the day - noticed it on 7/26)

~ 09/10/08 - INTERVIEW - VISA APPROVED ! ! ! !

~ 09/12/08 - VISA RECEIVED

~ 10/17/08 - Arrival in the USA (JFK POE)

~ 10/31/08 - MARRIED! ! !

¨*:•.(¯`'•.¸ AOS¸.•'´¯) .•:*¨

~ 03/26/09 - Sent AOS (I-485, I-765, I-131)

~ 03/27/09 - AOS packet signed for by V BUSTAMANTE

~ 04/02/09 - NOA for AOS/ EAD / Travel Doc

~ 04/03/09 - Check cashed

~ 04/25/09 - Biometrics

~ 04/20/09 - Transferred to CSC

~ 04/25/09 - Transfer notice received in the mail

~ 04/27/09 - Arrived at CSC

~ 05/09/09 - Employment Auth / Travel Document Approved

~ 05/12/09 - AP approved - without an interview

~ 05/23/09 - Welcome letter received

~ 06/05/09 - GREEN CARD RECEIVED! ! !

~ 09/11/11 - DIVORCE - DIVORCE - DIVORCE

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Imagine.....

If all the people out there applying for visas for the wrong reason. If they were taken out of the equation immagine how fast our visas might be processes......

They would be faster but the method of meeting does not equate to applying for the wrong reason.

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Understanding the big picture is priceless. Anonymous

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Imagine.....

If all the people out there applying for visas for the wrong reason. If they were taken out of the equation immagine how fast our visas might be processes......

I do not disagree with you on that Amanda but up till now there hasn't been a device designed to pin point people's intention. We all need to calm down here. pushbrk no need to get offensive. All my other fellows, all we can do is pray for a swift and happy journey.

My Timeline

I-130:

Sent: May 19th 2008

NOA2: July 21st 2008

NVC

Received: July 24th 2008

Case completed: August 13th 2008

Interview: October 7th 2008

Green card received: January 20th 2009

I-751

Sent: October 6th 2010

Approval: January 28th 2011

Green Card received: February 3rd 2011

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Imagine.....

If all the people out there applying for visas for the wrong reason. If they were taken out of the equation immagine how fast our visas might be processes......

I do not disagree with you on that Amanda but up till now there hasn't been a device designed to pin point people's intention. We all need to calm down here. pushbrk no need to get offensive. All my other fellows, all we can do is pray for a swift and happy journey.

We can do a whole lot more than pray including learning the process and preparing.

I am offended. Whether I'm being offensive is a matter of opinion.

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Understanding the big picture is priceless. Anonymous

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Hello everyone. I have been a lurker on this site for a few months now. I'm not really much of a chatter but I overheard something really disturbing a few hours ago at work, so i have to vent a little. One of my co-workers (that i really dont know very well) was telling another co-worker that one of his friends invited him to this party where he said there will be a bunch of women with J visas looking for American citizens to marry so they can come here and live permanently :o ...If I'm not mistaken, he called it an "immigration party."... This just pissed me the heck off!!! :ranting: Though I'm not really that surprised....

I'm perplexed by your story.

Your friend is to attend a party where there are women with J visas, correct?

But the women want to come here a live permanently? Is that correct?

If the first fact is correct, seems to me the women are already here. So they don't need to 'come' here. If they meet a USC man at this party and marry him, they are legally allowed to file for Adjustment of Status and if the case is approved they can live here permanently.

It may not be everybody's cup of tea, but the path is perfectly legal.

*edited to add that some J visa holders have a 2 year home residency requirement that might foil plans of staying in America*

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Imagine.....

If all the people out there applying for visas for the wrong reason. If they were taken out of the equation immagine how fast our visas might be processes......

I do not disagree with you on that Amanda but up till now there hasn't been a device designed to pin point people's intention. We all need to calm down here. pushbrk no need to get offensive. All my other fellows, all we can do is pray for a swift and happy journey.

We can do a whole lot more than pray including learning the process and preparing.

I am offended. Whether I'm being offensive is a matter of opinion.

Well that's a matter of how much faith one has in prayers. I do sense that you are trying to imply that people who are taking part in this discussion, for or against your opinion are ignorant and know nothing about the immigration process. I'd suggest that if one cannot be helpful in bringing peace to a situation, should not take part in it at all. You expressed your feelings pushbrk and no one has a beef with you. Being rude and accusing is not part of the deal here nor calling names. I also believe that your wife is with you now...good for you guys. 99% of people taking part in this discussion are ALONE, waiting frustratingly to be united with their loved one.

My Timeline

I-130:

Sent: May 19th 2008

NOA2: July 21st 2008

NVC

Received: July 24th 2008

Case completed: August 13th 2008

Interview: October 7th 2008

Green card received: January 20th 2009

I-751

Sent: October 6th 2010

Approval: January 28th 2011

Green Card received: February 3rd 2011

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Imagine.....

If all the people out there applying for visas for the wrong reason. If they were taken out of the equation immagine how fast our visas might be processes......

I do not disagree with you on that Amanda but up till now there hasn't been a device designed to pin point people's intention. We all need to calm down here. pushbrk no need to get offensive. All my other fellows, all we can do is pray for a swift and happy journey.

We can do a whole lot more than pray including learning the process and preparing.

I am offended. Whether I'm being offensive is a matter of opinion.

Well that's a matter of how much faith one has in prayers. I do sense that you are trying to imply that people who are taking part in this discussion, for or against your opinion are ignorant and know nothing about the immigration process. I'd suggest that if one cannot be helpful in bringing peace to a situation, should not take part in it at all. You expressed your feelings pushbrk and no one has a beef with you. Being rude and accusing is not part of the deal here nor calling names. I also believe that your wife is with you now...good for you guys. 99% of people taking part in this discussion are ALONE, waiting frustratingly to be united with their loved one.

Prayers won't file a petition correctly. I'm not demonstrating any lack of faith in prayers at all. I'm saying prayer is not ALL we can do.

I've not implied anything about the what any poster in this thread knows about the visa process.

A thread expressing anger about a party doesn't help anybody through the visa process.

Facts are cheap...knowing how to use them is precious...
Understanding the big picture is priceless. Anonymous

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