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If you haven't been fasting these first few days of Dhull Hijja, these next 2 days are good ones to do. inshaAllah Sunday is the day of standing on Arafat for the hajjis. For the rest of us, there is much benefit in it:

Virtues of the Day of Arafat

Especially:

4.Fasting on this day is an expiation for two years. It was reported from Abu Qutaadah (ra) that the Messenger of Allah (saws) was asked about fasting on the Day of Arafaah. He said, 'It expiates for the sins of the previous year and of the coming year.' Narrated by Muslim.

so.....smoke 'em if ya got 'em?

j/k

[Aymsgirl 0]

If you haven't been fasting these first few days of Dhull Hijja, these next 2 days are good ones to do. inshaAllah Sunday is the day of standing on Arafat for the hajjis. For the rest of us, there is much benefit in it:

Virtues of the Day of Arafat

Especially:

4.Fasting on this day is an expiation for two years. It was reported from Abu Qutaadah (ra) that the Messenger of Allah (saws) was asked about fasting on the Day of Arafaah. He said, 'It expiates for the sins of the previous year and of the coming year.' Narrated by Muslim.

so.....smoke 'em if ya got 'em?

j/k

That reminds me of what my family was telling my husband on Thanksgiving! Go ahead and eat the pork and drink the beer and ask for forgiveness. I was like whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhatttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt?????????????????????

It was embarassing.....

[UmmSqueakster 54]

When we do an act from which Allah (swt) grants us expiation of our sins, it has to be accompanied by sincere repentance as well.

http://www.geocities.com/mutmainaa/dua1/repent.html

The Conditions for Repentance

The conditions for repentance are well known:

1. Leaving the sin;

2. Remorse over having committed the sin;

3. Resolve never to return to the sin;

(If it relates to the rights of another person, then to) Return the rights or property one wrongly took. [al-Bariqa fi Sharh al-Tariqa; Riyad al-Salihin]

If these conditions are truly met, then one can expect one's sins to be forgiven. However, one has to be very careful about how sincere one is in fulfilling one's conditions. It is recommended to seek forgiveness a lot, and to repent every time the sin comes to one's mind.

If one keeps repeating the sin, then one should find the root cause(s) of the sin and eliminate them. For example, if one falls into a certain sin because of the company one keeps, then it would be necessary to either stop keeping their company, or to change the nature of one's relationship with them.

The Prophet (saws) never sinned, yet he sought forgiveness more than 70 times per day. How much should we then seek?

Abu Hurairah (ra) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) saying, "I swear by Allah that I seek Allah's Pardon and turn to Him in repentance more than seventy times a day.''

[Al-Bukhari].

[Aymsgirl 0]

When we do an act from which Allah (swt) grants us expiation of our sins, it has to be accompanied by sincere repentance as well.

http://www.geocities.com/mutmainaa/dua1/repent.html

The Conditions for Repentance

The conditions for repentance are well known:

1. Leaving the sin;

2. Remorse over having committed the sin;

3. Resolve never to return to the sin;

(If it relates to the rights of another person, then to) Return the rights or property one wrongly took. [al-Bariqa fi Sharh al-Tariqa; Riyad al-Salihin]

If these conditions are truly met, then one can expect one's sins to be forgiven. However, one has to be very careful about how sincere one is in fulfilling one's conditions. It is recommended to seek forgiveness a lot, and to repent every time the sin comes to one's mind.

If one keeps repeating the sin, then one should find the root cause(s) of the sin and eliminate them. For example, if one falls into a certain sin because of the company one keeps, then it would be necessary to either stop keeping their company, or to change the nature of one's relationship with them.

The Prophet (saws) never sinned, yet he sought forgiveness more than 70 times per day. How much should we then seek?

Abu Hurairah (ra) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) saying, "I swear by Allah that I seek Allah's Pardon and turn to Him in repentance more than seventy times a day.''

[Al-Bukhari].

This is how I thought it would be. My husband verified it with me when we were discussing the fasting. Thank you for sharing Rahma.

We didn't go into any of this with my family. When they were trying to pressure him into things they kept saying just ask Allah to forgive you. It was humiliating probably more for me than him because it was my family doing this.

[caybee 21]

The Eid really sneaked up on both of us this year! I haven't sorted through the posts yet -- is it on Monday, as far as we know? We sent money to my husband's family to buy a sheep but I guess he'll want to get something from the halal butcher tomorrow -- hope they have something left. He works weekday evenings, so I don't even know how we'll celebrate. Next year he'll qualify for one floating holiday a year, so at least he can pick one of the Eids and have it treated like everyone else's holidays. He just found out one of his coworkers who switched over from first shift is Muslim, so maybe the two of them can at least eat together on their lunch break -- maybe he (or I, if I can get a couple hours off) can grill kebab around 1 pm, make some rice pilaf or something, and he can take that with him to share with his friends.

[Muh and me 18]

Kamal sent the money a long time ago when we had extra. And I'm trying to get him to celebrate EID on Monday.

[caybee 21]

When we do an act from which Allah (swt) grants us expiation of our sins, it has to be accompanied by sincere repentance as well.

http://www.geocities.com/mutmainaa/dua1/repent.html

The Conditions for Repentance

The conditions for repentance are well known:

1. Leaving the sin;

2. Remorse over having committed the sin;

3. Resolve never to return to the sin;

(If it relates to the rights of another person, then to) Return the rights or property one wrongly took. [al-Bariqa fi Sharh al-Tariqa; Riyad al-Salihin]

If these conditions are truly met, then one can expect one's sins to be forgiven. However, one has to be very careful about how sincere one is in fulfilling one's conditions. It is recommended to seek forgiveness a lot, and to repent every time the sin comes to one's mind.

If one keeps repeating the sin, then one should find the root cause(s) of the sin and eliminate them. For example, if one falls into a certain sin because of the company one keeps, then it would be necessary to either stop keeping their company, or to change the nature of one's relationship with them.

The Prophet (saws) never sinned, yet he sought forgiveness more than 70 times per day. How much should we then seek?

Abu Hurairah (ra) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) saying, "I swear by Allah that I seek Allah's Pardon and turn to Him in repentance more than seventy times a day.''

[Al-Bukhari].

Interesting. This would average out to about once every 15 minutes, minimum, while someone was awake, so it's essentially seeking forgiveness constantly, almost like breathing.

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Kamal sent the money a long time ago when we had extra. And I'm trying to get him to celebrate EID on Monday.

I just saw this and I am not sure if it's been posted on another area of the forum as we have several Eid related discussions going on but I thought it might be helpful, as it says, for the new Muslims or the new immigrants to America.

Here are the links :

http://www.soundvision.com/Info/EID/

http://www.soundvision.com/Info/EID/new.asp

The second link is "18 Ways New Muslim and Immigrants can make this Eid special" and I thought it had some good tips

18 ways new Muslims and immigrants can make this Eid special

by Abdul Malik Mujahid

For those who have Muslim families celebrating Eid with them, it's easy to enjoy this blessed day. For others though, Eid can be a lonely affair.

For instance, if you're a new Muslim, while other Muslims happily hug their parents, spouses or kids and wish them "Eid Mubarak", you may be left standing in the prayer hall, alone.

Also, if you're a recent immigrant or student here with family back home, Eid day can be depressing, since you'll be missing your family and feeling there is little reason to celebrate.

Or, you could have just moved to another city and are unfamiliar with the local Muslim community. That means standing aside as those who know one another hug and share Eid greetings.

Muslims have a great tradition of hospitality, but during the short Eid salat time, there is a whole lot people have to attend to. They may be just shy or busy with children. Maybe it is you who need to take an initiative.

Here are some ideas to help you avoid experiencing the Eid blues:

[caybee 21]

Kamal sent the money a long time ago when we had extra. And I'm trying to get him to celebrate EID on Monday.

I just saw this and I am not sure if it's been posted on another area of the forum as we have several Eid related discussions going on but I thought it might be helpful, as it says, for the new Muslims or the new immigrants to America.

Here are the links :

http://www.soundvision.com/Info/EID/

http://www.soundvision.com/Info/EID/new.asp

The second link is "18 Ways New Muslim and Immigrants can make this Eid special" and I thought it had some good tips

18 ways new Muslims and immigrants can make this Eid special

by Abdul Malik Mujahid

For those who have Muslim families celebrating Eid with them, it's easy to enjoy this blessed day. For others though, Eid can be a lonely affair.

For instance, if you're a new Muslim, while other Muslims happily hug their parents, spouses or kids and wish them "Eid Mubarak", you may be left standing in the prayer hall, alone.

Also, if you're a recent immigrant or student here with family back home, Eid day can be depressing, since you'll be missing your family and feeling there is little reason to celebrate.

Or, you could have just moved to another city and are unfamiliar with the local Muslim community. That means standing aside as those who know one another hug and share Eid greetings.

Muslims have a great tradition of hospitality, but during the short Eid salat time, there is a whole lot people have to attend to. They may be just shy or busy with children. Maybe it is you who need to take an initiative.

Here are some ideas to help you avoid experiencing the Eid blues:

Thanks for the links! Although most of these are for him, there are some I can help with. We can go clothes-shopping together this weekend. I can put some extra effort into the house cleaning so everything will look great for Monday. And I can make a batch of Moroccan munchies he can take with him to work and share with his buddies there -- he liked something I made for Thanksgiving, and it's good finger food.

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i have to work on Eiid I am bummed out about it..... I hope others get to enjoy insha'allah next year!

[Aymsgirl 0]

i have to work on Eiid I am bummed out about it..... I hope others get to enjoy insha'allah next year!

I have to work on Eid also Rajaa. My husband I think is secretly bummed because there really is no celebration here. Our Islamic Society is having a banquiet dinner but it's pretty pricey to get in and we don't have the extra money so I guess we will be at home like a regular night. He is going to pray that morning at the mosque but I will be at work.

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i have to work on Eiid I am bummed out about it..... I hope others get to enjoy insha'allah next year!

I have to work on Eid also Rajaa. My husband I think is secretly bummed because there really is no celebration here. Our Islamic Society is having a banquiet dinner but it's pretty pricey to get in and we don't have the extra money so I guess we will be at home like a regular night. He is going to pray that morning at the mosque but I will be at work.

Why not buy some sparkling cider and make a nice meal with a special cake??? Just thoughts. But nothing says special like sparkling cider and cake. I don't drink, but I loves the Martinelli's!!!!

[nunyab 0]

i have to work on Eiid I am bummed out about it..... I hope others get to enjoy insha'allah next year!

I have to work on Eid also Rajaa. My husband I think is secretly bummed because there really is no celebration here. Our Islamic Society is having a banquiet dinner but it's pretty pricey to get in and we don't have the extra money so I guess we will be at home like a regular night. He is going to pray that morning at the mosque but I will be at work.

Why not buy some sparkling cider and make a nice meal with a special cake??? Just thoughts. But nothing says special like sparkling cider and cake. I don't drink, but I loves the Martinelli's!!!!

i am with you sister!!

Aymsgirl~ we need to plan better next year

[Muh and me 18]

We were gonna have lamb but my hubby vetoed the idea when we couldn't find a piece of halal that he would eat. He is such a picky person .

[Aymsgirl 0]

i have to work on Eiid I am bummed out about it..... I hope others get to enjoy insha'allah next year!

I have to work on Eid also Rajaa. My husband I think is secretly bummed because there really is no celebration here. Our Islamic Society is having a banquiet dinner but it's pretty pricey to get in and we don't have the extra money so I guess we will be at home like a regular night. He is going to pray that morning at the mosque but I will be at work.

Why not buy some sparkling cider and make a nice meal with a special cake??? Just thoughts. But nothing says special like sparkling cider and cake. I don't drink, but I loves the Martinelli's!!!!

i am with you sister!!

Aymsgirl~ we need to plan better next year

I know we do. I just really don't know what to expect or do. I wanted to really go to the dinner but he is saying we better not. Now my sons bball coach called and he has practice. I would like to go to a nice restaurant or something but honestly its ok if we have to spend the evening at home. He wants to go back home to Egypt next year for the last 10 days of Ramadan. I think that is nice and all but it leaves me at home alone. Maybe one day I will get this holiday stuff figured out.

Happy Eid everybody!