Already have a wife.......

[Nick/Nadia Bluma 0]

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

I would print out the proof that you have and report it to the USCIS.

Yes!!! and kick him out of the house while you at it!

I don't think I would have him living in my home after finding out something like this, he has another wife and home, let him go back there!

My thoughts and prayers are with you

Sorry to here of your bad experience, my prayers are with you. You do have options though: You can go on with life "abnormal", pretend that nothing happened and ignore the truth you know or you can stare it in the face and do something about it. This person has lied to you in the worst way and, whatever your emotional state at this point, you do know the truth. It is clear that visa fraud was the goal and you have the proof. Whatever you decide to do, make sure that you are safe.

God bless

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

[LovinLiberia 0]

I know it may be hard to keep a straight face with him in the house, but try and pretend that everything is fine, until ICE comes knocking in front of the house.

I can just imagine his face once he realizes he has no where to hide.

[Betrayed01 0]

Hello Everyone,

I am kind of calm today. Thanks for all your continued support. It is difficult facing him and yes I am getting my ducks in a row. I have all emails including her email address. Once this comes to a head, I will contact her but not now. You know someone told me that a friend of theirs married an American woman and the guy from Nigeria family members were all there and they knew he had a wife. I never thought that would be the case with me but it is similar.

I have to wait until the time is right to SLAP him with all this information I have obtained. Even jobs he told me that they never contacted him, have wrote email saying sorry that you decided not to work with us. It's hard ladies but I have to hold my tongue until I can have the last laugh. I have prayed and prayed, I need all the strength I can get. I try talking to him as if nothing is wrong but he can tell. I just have to walk away and smile like it's nothing. Now I must admit, the minute he BEG for sex, I may have to slap the S*** out of him. That will be a tough one.

Ladies it's amazing how someone can be so deceitful and act as if there is nothing wrong. Now don't misunderstand me, I have thrown hints. He didn't get it because he is so busy being deceitful.

In addition, now I have all phone records of all phone calls. Yet to connect my devise from Radio Shack to the phone line but it's coming. I walk around saying these words, HANG MAN. And all he say is with that "voice of authority" what is that? what are you talking about? I do that "soap opera" voice, nothing dear.

I will get around to answer all questions as this progress. I am so sorry that I am just getting back with you but it has been rough.

He has his conditional green card. I am doing my research and I have family members that are lawyer unfortunately they are not immigration lawyers.

I hate to say that I do feel bad about spying on my husband but now I am glad. The software is amazing, I know every website he goes to and each and every key stroke. And I check it with him sitting right there. :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:

Be back later,

Thank you all, you all are HEAVEN SENT

It's hard not to cry when I type this.

[Betrayed01 0]

I know it may be hard to keep a straight face with him in the house, but try and pretend that everything is fine, until ICE comes knocking in front of the house.

I can just imagine his face once he realizes he has no where to hide.

He will have somewhere to hide, back in Nigeria. Once his name is in the database as "fraud", I pray that he won't be able to petition again. No one deserve this.

[Betrayed01 0]

Don't hesitate to come here for support through this process. You have a hard road ahead of you to deal with this deceit. Remember to focus on taking care of yourself through all the hard decisions you have to make. Take actions and keep yourself safe.

I'll be thinking of you. Be Blessed.

Thank you, I am safe. I don't want him to know yet because there are other things I may need. It's hard but I have to prepare. I don't want this to fail under no circumstances.

Thanking you again.

B01

[Betrayed01 0]

You have been given some sound advice, what I want u to know is that it's not your fault that you fell in love and trusted that man, that's what we do when were in love especially when love is being reciprocated. Also your not alone, the same thing happened to me, ofcourse with a little twist, please don't let this man drive you crazy, I can relate to you saying that he'll just lie once you confront him, it sounds like you do know this man, I believe you when you say that he's gonna deny the whole situation ( been there ) and be prepared for him to try to somehow blame you.

Maybe once you print out the e-mails and send the fraud unit a copy with a detailed written letter, you can give him one copy to read where he's telling his wife he'll send for her and the kids asap.

Once a alien arrives here legally, there are all kinds of ways for them to stay. If I were you I wouldn/'t confront your husband until you have sent the fraud information to USCIS. Because once he knows that your aware of his scam, he'll really begin fighting for his life. Lies, be prepared there is no limit to what he'll now do or say to stay in this country.

Please keep in mind that once a alien files a I-360 against you any information that you send into the immigration office can NOT be considered against the I-360, so right now it like a race to the immigration office for you.

I think the e-mails themselves will be enough to convince the fraud unit, but remember what type of person your dealing with. He will try to wiggle his way out , he didn't come here and marry you just to go back to his country.

P.S. I'd also hide my phone book and valuables ( diamonds ,expensive rings etc. )

Above all count it a blessing that you no longer will be living in a lie. I'm glad that you thought to put the spyware on your pc, had you not of done that you'd probable be thinking it's cultural differences (or something else ) and things will work itself out.

ALL THE BEST TOO YOU !!!!!

I looked into this I-360 information. Wow! I have all the email of deceit, I don't think that one will stand up in the court of law. Like I stated earlier, I have family members that are lawyers, who are advising me at this point. They are not immigration lawyers but lawyers. Yes he has tried that cultural difference thing with me but not in this current situation. I told him then that dog don't hunt. I thought we had an understanding now I see why.

I won't allow him to drive me crazy, I am buying Hefty garbage bags for his trip home. I will definitely keep you all posted.

I AM MAD AS H*** NOW!!! Printed out the I-360 information.

[Zee Bee 61]

I hope you get yourself out of this situation soon and safely.

Just remember, don't do anything to give him just cause to file that I-360.

You are in our prayer

[Ta Ta 1]

I am glad to hear that you are in action mode now. I know how much in shock you were. Been there done that with my ex, though he was a

USC.

Please know we are here supporting you and this is your place you can go when no one else understand the hell you are going through.

Praying for you

[Nagishkaw 510]

Psalm 112.

[LovinLiberia 0]

Hello Everyone,

I am kind of calm today. Thanks for all your continued support. It is difficult facing him and yes I am getting my ducks in a row. I have all emails including her email address. Once this comes to a head, I will contact her but not now. You know someone told me that a friend of theirs married an American woman and the guy from Nigeria family members were all there and they knew he had a wife. I never thought that would be the case with me but it is similar.

I have to wait until the time is right to SLAP him with all this information I have obtained. Even jobs he told me that they never contacted him, have wrote email saying sorry that you decided not to work with us. It's hard ladies but I have to hold my tongue until I can have the last laugh. I have prayed and prayed, I need all the strength I can get. I try talking to him as if nothing is wrong but he can tell. I just have to walk away and smile like it's nothing. Now I must admit, the minute he BEG for sex, I may have to slap the S*** out of him. That will be a tough one.

Ladies it's amazing how someone can be so deceitful and act as if there is nothing wrong. Now don't misunderstand me, I have thrown hints. He didn't get it because he is so busy being deceitful.

In addition, now I have all phone records of all phone calls. Yet to connect my devise from Radio Shack to the phone line but it's coming. I walk around saying these words, HANG MAN. And all he say is with that "voice of authority" what is that? what are you talking about? I do that "soap opera" voice, nothing dear.

I will get around to answer all questions as this progress. I am so sorry that I am just getting back with you but it has been rough.

He has his conditional green card. I am doing my research and I have family members that are lawyer unfortunately they are not immigration lawyers.

I hate to say that I do feel bad about spying on my husband but now I am glad. The software is amazing, I know every website he goes to and each and every key stroke. And I check it with him sitting right there. :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:

Be back later,

Thank you all, you all are HEAVEN SENT

It's hard not to cry when I type this.

I am so glad to see you going at this with a clear and focused mind. You seem to be very strong about this and I know you will do what it takes to clear up this situation. As everyone else mentioned, keep all of your evidence for further use. Seems like he's full of deceit if he was even lying to you about jobs. The great thing is that you know all of this and you have the upper hand on the situation. You are in control and you are no longer in the dark. You will be okay.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Hello Everyone,

I am kind of calm today. Thanks for all your continued support. It is difficult facing him and yes I am getting my ducks in a row. I have all emails including her email address. Once this comes to a head, I will contact her but not now. You know someone told me that a friend of theirs married an American woman and the guy from Nigeria family members were all there and they knew he had a wife. I never thought that would be the case with me but it is similar.

I have to wait until the time is right to SLAP him with all this information I have obtained. Even jobs he told me that they never contacted him, have wrote email saying sorry that you decided not to work with us. It's hard ladies but I have to hold my tongue until I can have the last laugh. I have prayed and prayed, I need all the strength I can get. I try talking to him as if nothing is wrong but he can tell. I just have to walk away and smile like it's nothing. Now I must admit, the minute he BEG for sex, I may have to slap the S*** out of him. That will be a tough one.

Ladies it's amazing how someone can be so deceitful and act as if there is nothing wrong. Now don't misunderstand me, I have thrown hints. He didn't get it because he is so busy being deceitful.

In addition, now I have all phone records of all phone calls. Yet to connect my devise from Radio Shack to the phone line but it's coming. I walk around saying these words, HANG MAN. And all he say is with that "voice of authority" what is that? what are you talking about? I do that "soap opera" voice, nothing dear.

I will get around to answer all questions as this progress. I am so sorry that I am just getting back with you but it has been rough.

He has his conditional green card. I am doing my research and I have family members that are lawyer unfortunately they are not immigration lawyers.

I hate to say that I do feel bad about spying on my husband but now I am glad. The software is amazing, I know every website he goes to and each and every key stroke. And I check it with him sitting right there. :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:

Be back later,

Thank you all, you all are HEAVEN SENT

It's hard not to cry when I type this.

I'm glad you are working on this and trying to stay calm and focused. Keep yourself safe and take care of your business. I wanted to mention a discussion about spyware where case law was found to say that it's illegal to intercept emails even on your own computer, even from your own spouse with spyware software. So, don't volunteer the information that you used that and do a little research because all the information is still on the computer and there is a way for it to be retreived by computer people (programmers or something) without using spyware that would be still considered a legal means in most of the contiguous states. Just wanted you to look into that because if it hinders you from using all the evidence you have it could be a problem and I can't imagine how frustrating it would be. Definitely talk with immigration too to let them help you with guidance about what you should do with what you have found out. They will direct you to fraud specialists that will help you move forward. There is also a member on here named diadromous mermaid who is very knowledgeable and may be able to help you.

God Bless You Sister! We're with you in spirit. This too shall pass.

[forchika 4]

Sorry this happened to you!!!!! Agree with everyone else who said no one deserves for something like this to happen, if he is a GOD fearing man, he should be afraid because what goes around comes around three folds....I just do not understand how you plan something like that and think that you will have any luck in life. Stay strong....my prayers and thoughts are with you!!!!!!

[xoxo 0]

This make me so mad, how could he get pass checks etc and interview i guess he was on top of his game. I am now greatful that they are screening more security checks,etc sometimes uscis knows things we dont know. My cousin and my husband grew up together and u still just never know someone intentions they will play the game.I am sorry there is light at the end of this dark tunnel trust me i'm living proof. someone better will come along in the future hold tight my dear.

[chispas 0]

Hugs to you at this moment Does his "wife" know that he married you to get to the United States? If she does know, then it may not do any good to get in contact with her. You may just hurt yourself by being lied to by more people.

Please be very careful, as others have suggested, if he is willing to go to this extent to get a green card he might not stop at anything to make sure his secret remains hidden. I would additionally suggest to remove your passports, birth-certificates and any legal documents you have from the house. Any and all personal information on you also needs to be protected as it can be quite easy to cause financial and personal damage. (I speak from experience on this) Please also make sure that you "safe" people to check on you and be around you more often during this time. At all cost be safe first and USCIS second.