Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 6)

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

hi guys do u think any of ur SOs would object to being a stay at home dad if need be if its cheaper than daycare? By the way what are infant daycare costs like and the times in which u can drop them off and pick them up.

I can't say this loud enough but YES, most jamaican men do not like to be at home, looking after pickney, even if it's theres. they want to work be out the house.

yup that was his response when i asked him. My thoughts were that it may be cheaper for him stay home. Its just a thought. Now if he gets paid like 11.75 im estimating at 40 hours a week that would give about 350 maybe? and that will only just cover daycare and we need a lot more than that im trying figure what cost i will cut to afford daycare and any other expenses right now i have no extra to cover that so i been praying on it and trying find a cheaper place to live.

did u price daycare where u are??? know any older ladies who want to supplement their income??? Is your mother near you she might know someone

When my daughter was in Daycare ... and I even found preschool this way ... I called churches. Both the churches that helped me happen to be Methodist but Church people know people.... They know the community.

Open the yellow pages and call and visit everyone you can.

When I moved back to Maine I cried and cried because I didnt think I could afford it. Even though I work at home I couldnt get work done with a wired kid running around. I eventually found some GREAT care.

You have to hunt the good ones down!

I been crying and cryin too already and baby is nowhere near here yet. Going to do some OT now while i can to try save up some money and finish off my jamaica travel debt and the visa stuff. Im going to start lookign into and call some places. Im still hoping the TX thing will come through for me by summer that will tremendously cut my costs. They need 8 people to leave before i can come. So far one is leaving so now thats 7. Ill keep prayin on it. Ive also been trying to find places here cheaper where i dont have to sign a 12 month lease. Thank you all for ur advice i truly appreciate it, its like noone outside this visa/adjustment process can even begin to understand.

I know u want to transfer thru your job.

have u thought about trying to find a job on your own, after u have the baby. you can apply for jobs from up here thanks to the internet and plan a week and go and interview. that is one of my friends did. companies will/should be flexible if u say i'm coming down this particular week

Yes that is the plan if nothing comes through i have even been looking at other jobs with my company in TX, CA, ATL, FL nothing that fits what i do or thye wont pay enough. My job now is pretty flexible so im gonna need that while pregnant. SO after baby comes ill see whats next. Ive been here 7 years its kinda hard to leave but we will see what happens 10 years one more week of vacay time that makes 4 weeks vacay 7 personal 5 sick

[Jengles 0]

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

hi guys do u think any of ur SOs would object to being a stay at home dad if need be if its cheaper than daycare? By the way what are infant daycare costs like and the times in which u can drop them off and pick them up.

I can't say this loud enough but YES, most jamaican men do not like to be at home, looking after pickney, even if it's theres. they want to work be out the house.

yup that was his response when i asked him. My thoughts were that it may be cheaper for him stay home. Its just a thought. Now if he gets paid like 11.75 im estimating at 40 hours a week that would give about 350 maybe? and that will only just cover daycare and we need a lot more than that im trying figure what cost i will cut to afford daycare and any other expenses right now i have no extra to cover that so i been praying on it and trying find a cheaper place to live.

did u price daycare where u are??? know any older ladies who want to supplement their income??? Is your mother near you she might know someone

When my daughter was in Daycare ... and I even found preschool this way ... I called churches. Both the churches that helped me happen to be Methodist but Church people know people.... They know the community.

Open the yellow pages and call and visit everyone you can.

When I moved back to Maine I cried and cried because I didnt think I could afford it. Even though I work at home I couldnt get work done with a wired kid running around. I eventually found some GREAT care.

You have to hunt the good ones down!

I been crying and cryin too already and baby is nowhere near here yet. Going to do some OT now while i can to try save up some money and finish off my jamaica travel debt and the visa stuff. Im going to start lookign into and call some places. Im still hoping the TX thing will come through for me by summer that will tremendously cut my costs. They need 8 people to leave before i can come. So far one is leaving so now thats 7. Ill keep prayin on it. Ive also been trying to find places here cheaper where i dont have to sign a 12 month lease. Thank you all for ur advice i truly appreciate it, its like noone outside this visa/adjustment process can even begin to understand.

I know u want to transfer thru your job.

have u thought about trying to find a job on your own, after u have the baby. you can apply for jobs from up here thanks to the internet and plan a week and go and interview. that is one of my friends did. companies will/should be flexible if u say i'm coming down this particular week

Yes that is the plan if nothing comes through i have even been looking at other jobs with my company in TX, CA, ATL, FL nothing that fits what i do or thye wont pay enough. My job now is pretty flexible so im gonna need that while pregnant. SO after baby comes ill see whats next. Ive been here 7 years its kinda hard to leave but we will see what happens 10 years one more week of vacay time that makes 4 weeks vacay 7 personal 5 sick

yeah would be nice if u could stay with the company, but if not use that vacation time and find something else in the state of your choice

[Yaads 0]

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

Yeah that is a big part of it. There is a big difference between staying home and watching the children every now and then or even for a few hours a day while the other person is working but it is completely different when staying home and watching the kids is your FT job and you don't do anything else. I think that is what gets most people (male or female) - they kinda lose themselves because they are home all day without much adult social interaction and a lot of people identify themselves through their jobs.

[Marlita 0]

haha "cruisewear"!? Thats too funny. When i think of that I think of little old men and ladies in their pastel colored tops and khaki shorts....its definitley not cruisewear here. More like Jamaica hot sun wear, or hit the club wear.

[IrieCat 2]

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

Yeah that is a big part of it. There is a big difference between staying home and watching the children every now and then or even for a few hours a day while the other person is working but it is completely different when staying home and watching the kids is your FT job and you don't do anything else. I think that is what gets most people (male or female) - they kinda lose themselves because they are home all day without much adult social interaction and a lot of people identify themselves through their jobs.

I AGREE! I have been teleworking since Tierra was born... 6 years now!

I go mad sometimes. Especially since coming back from St Lucia. I have no car and where I live there is no public transportation. I rely alot on my mom and friends. My friends know when it is time to get Catherine out of the house... I call them all crying!! LOL

I sure love Tierra but sometimes I need to get dressed up, have a drink and laugh and talk with some adults!!!

I am a stay at home mom that works full time. UGH!

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

Yeah that is a big part of it. There is a big difference between staying home and watching the children every now and then or even for a few hours a day while the other person is working but it is completely different when staying home and watching the kids is your FT job and you don't do anything else. I think that is what gets most people (male or female) - they kinda lose themselves because they are home all day without much adult social interaction and a lot of people identify themselves through their jobs.

Chris says hes bored and wants to work. I thought school would be an outlet for him to at least not be so bored. He goes to school mon-thur in the mornings. He bought home a paper for fedex im not sure of their requirements as far as GED but they are starting at 11.75 an hour. He just passed the pre-ged section now will be in the GED course starting monday so thats great. School ends in June.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Do you think that voicing something like this puts you in the same category as those people who look at a Rasta and automatically assume he's smokes or something in that same vein?

I guess I can understand why people would categorize me with them, it's of course their choice.....Do I think I jump to unfounded conclusions by a PHOTO? Hell yes!!

I don't know the couple apart from what is said on the net, have no facts, so any conclusion I arrive at is inherently flawed.

However, if someone asked me my opinion, I would volunteer it, ensuring they realize I have no sound basis for it.

If they didn't ask, I wouldn't volunteer my opinion though.....

[Jengles 0]

JaLove,

his schedule sounds like mr. jengles the school is at the end of our block and has weekend and evening classes now that he has his EAD, he'll probably do one of those. he used to go Mon-Fri before. and mr is dying to work, he started to apply to some stuff before he left.

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

Yeah that is a big part of it. There is a big difference between staying home and watching the children every now and then or even for a few hours a day while the other person is working but it is completely different when staying home and watching the kids is your FT job and you don't do anything else. I think that is what gets most people (male or female) - they kinda lose themselves because they are home all day without much adult social interaction and a lot of people identify themselves through their jobs.

I AGREE! I have been teleworking since Tierra was born... 6 years now!

I go mad sometimes. Especially since coming back from St Lucia. I have no car and where I live there is no public transportation. I rely alot on my mom and friends. My friends know when it is time to get Catherine out of the house... I call them all crying!! LOL

I sure love Tierra but sometimes I need to get dressed up, have a drink and laugh and talk with some adults!!!

I am a stay at home mom that works full time. UGH!

I could never quite tell what was in style but could tell you all about the kid shows. lol

[IrieCat 2]

JaLove,

his schedule sounds like mr. jengles the school is at the end of our block and has weekend and evening classes now that he has his EAD, he'll probably do one of those. he used to go Mon-Fri before. and mr is dying to work, he started to apply to some stuff before he left.

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

Yeah that is a big part of it. There is a big difference between staying home and watching the children every now and then or even for a few hours a day while the other person is working but it is completely different when staying home and watching the kids is your FT job and you don't do anything else. I think that is what gets most people (male or female) - they kinda lose themselves because they are home all day without much adult social interaction and a lot of people identify themselves through their jobs.

I AGREE! I have been teleworking since Tierra was born... 6 years now!

I go mad sometimes. Especially since coming back from St Lucia. I have no car and where I live there is no public transportation. I rely alot on my mom and friends. My friends know when it is time to get Catherine out of the house... I call them all crying!! LOL

I sure love Tierra but sometimes I need to get dressed up, have a drink and laugh and talk with some adults!!!

I am a stay at home mom that works full time. UGH!

I could never quite tell what was in style but could tell you all about the kid shows. lol

Thats funny! PBS rocks my world!

I still don't understand why the Man with the big Yellow Hat leaves a monkey at home alone all day!!???

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Girl, you a mess..I knew u wouldn't let this slide. I was orginally offended by the comment. I was left wondering if it's my hubby that's leaving as soon as he gets his 10year.NOT!!! Since all the other predictions came true. It's one thing to judge a book by it's cover. Everyone on here wants the best for thier relationship. It was a pretty bold statement to make. My hubby may look snake in the grass but mi love him same way...

BTW MI NEED TO SEE THE PICTURE OF ALL THE MEN DEM

My intention was not to offend anyone by my comment.

I am suprised you are offended seeing as though I made it abundantly CLEAR that my opinions are based on basically nothing....Also, I can't see why my opinion would MATTER!

As for your relationship, NO ONE has the right to judge it, and while one may not agree with your choices or have their opinions on your relationship, what anyone thinks of your relationship should be of NO consequence if YOU are convinced it is right for you.....

[Jengles 0]

Irie,

Now we watch Nick mostly. he watches pbs kids sometimes. it's all about jimmy neutron and we can't forget spongebob

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

JaLove,

his schedule sounds like mr. jengles the school is at the end of our block and has weekend and evening classes now that he has his EAD, he'll probably do one of those. he used to go Mon-Fri before. and mr is dying to work, he started to apply to some stuff before he left.

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

Yeah that is a big part of it. There is a big difference between staying home and watching the children every now and then or even for a few hours a day while the other person is working but it is completely different when staying home and watching the kids is your FT job and you don't do anything else. I think that is what gets most people (male or female) - they kinda lose themselves because they are home all day without much adult social interaction and a lot of people identify themselves through their jobs.

I AGREE! I have been teleworking since Tierra was born... 6 years now!

I go mad sometimes. Especially since coming back from St Lucia. I have no car and where I live there is no public transportation. I rely alot on my mom and friends. My friends know when it is time to get Catherine out of the house... I call them all crying!! LOL

I sure love Tierra but sometimes I need to get dressed up, have a drink and laugh and talk with some adults!!!

I am a stay at home mom that works full time. UGH!

I could never quite tell what was in style but could tell you all about the kid shows. lol

Since he got moved up he may end up in evenings or with extra classes he studys hard! always in the book when i get home. Its wonderful that its free and they really didnt ask for much info when he signed up. And he can walk to school its not so far so thats a plus.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Ok ladies next question...

I want to take something nice for my MIL and SIL when we go, they haven't called to ask for one thing since he's been here. I can't ask him what he thinks they'd like because he doesn't even no we're going. So I am asking for suggestions. I was thinking something from bath and body, or maybe a piece of jewelry.

I find perfume is ALWAYS appreciated....

[Jengles 0]

Girl, you a mess..I knew u wouldn't let this slide. I was orginally offended by the comment. I was left wondering if it's my hubby that's leaving as soon as he gets his 10year.NOT!!! Since all the other predictions came true. It's one thing to judge a book by it's cover. Everyone on here wants the best for thier relationship. It was a pretty bold statement to make. My hubby may look snake in the grass but mi love him same way...

BTW MI NEED TO SEE THE PICTURE OF ALL THE MEN DEM

My intention was not to offend anyone by my comment.

I am suprised you are offended seeing as though I made it abundantly CLEAR that my opinions are based on basically nothing....Also, I can't see why my opinion would MATTER!

As for your relationship, NO ONE has the right to judge it, and while one may not agree with your choices or have their opinions on your relationship, what anyone thinks of your relationship should be of NO consequence if YOU are convinced it is right for you.....

Yah dyamn right,

and me a tek back mi offer fi send me and mr jengles picture to u, u might send to it marlita and mi nuh know what kind of obeah she a wuk now

Ok ladies next question...

I want to take something nice for my MIL and SIL when we go, they haven't called to ask for one thing since he's been here. I can't ask him what he thinks they'd like because he doesn't even no we're going. So I am asking for suggestions. I was thinking something from bath and body, or maybe a piece of jewelry.

I find perfume is ALWAYS appreciated....

anytime we wear perfume a yard the mosquoito and sand fly dem ....love mi off...

JaLove,

his schedule sounds like mr. jengles the school is at the end of our block and has weekend and evening classes now that he has his EAD, he'll probably do one of those. he used to go Mon-Fri before. and mr is dying to work, he started to apply to some stuff before he left.

but I must say this mr jengles ended up staying home with our daughter until he started school and he is so into her, it's not even funny, now he sees what he missed with his kids even though he lived with them because of his work hours in j.a. sometimes when i get home he reminds me that I have to "spend likkle time wid her" lol but he didn't do it out of choice.

Yeah that is a big part of it. There is a big difference between staying home and watching the children every now and then or even for a few hours a day while the other person is working but it is completely different when staying home and watching the kids is your FT job and you don't do anything else. I think that is what gets most people (male or female) - they kinda lose themselves because they are home all day without much adult social interaction and a lot of people identify themselves through their jobs.

I AGREE! I have been teleworking since Tierra was born... 6 years now!

I go mad sometimes. Especially since coming back from St Lucia. I have no car and where I live there is no public transportation. I rely alot on my mom and friends. My friends know when it is time to get Catherine out of the house... I call them all crying!! LOL

I sure love Tierra but sometimes I need to get dressed up, have a drink and laugh and talk with some adults!!!

I am a stay at home mom that works full time. UGH!

I could never quite tell what was in style but could tell you all about the kid shows. lol

Since he got moved up he may end up in evenings or with extra classes he studys hard! always in the book when i get home. Its wonderful that its free and they really didnt ask for much info when he signed up. And he can walk to school its not so far so thats a plus.

I live in brooklyn, they don't ask anyway!!! lol

where can i buy that jumpsuit my meez is wearing??? it look good to rass,

Edited March 7, 2008 by Jengles

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Yah dyamn right,

and me a tek back mi offer fi send me and mr jengles picture to u, u might send to it marlita and mi nuh know what kind of obeah she a wuk now

hahahhahahahahha lolololol

lawd yuh mek mi belly battam a hat mi!!

nuh sen nuh pikcha, sen mi one stran a fi yuh hair and one a MissaJengles own :devil: