Why do family members and in-laws back home think we're rich ?

[Jasman0717 9]

I am not supporting a family of seven in the Philippines. The Dad lost his job right after Claudeth came here and he has never bothered to look for work now that he has us. Fortunately my business there is making a profit so it is supporting them to the life style they have become accustomed to

[panamania79 2]

This is why we will NEVER live in my husband's country. He gets it all the time because he has an American wife, but it's worse when I visit. We have to "hold court" every morning. The living room is full of people waiting for us to wake up so they can ask my husband for money. To deny them would seem stingy, and, of course, we want to help out as much as we can. There is no way they can understand that while compared to them we are rich, we have responsibilities back home that we simply cannot ignore because we want to help them out. It is very frustrating. When our daughter was born my husband looked at her and said, "You will have a lot of responsibility." I nearly collapsed with the weight of the realization of what I had brought her into.

That must make you feel like royalty.I find it so hilarious that all my fiance's friends told him,"So you nabbed yourself a gringa,you just hit the lottery,man."

[panamania79 2]

I guess I'm lucky. My family and friends would never ask me for money or to buy them anything.

You are VERY lucky.

[panamania79 2]

I guess I'm lucky. My family and friends would never ask me for money or to buy them anything.

You are VERY lucky.

[Nessa 23]

I guess I'm lucky. My family and friends would never ask me for money or to buy them anything.

You are VERY lucky.

I guess it's because I don't come from a poor family, if I did maybe they'd ask for, you never know.

I guess I'm lucky. My family and friends would never ask me for money or to buy them anything.

You are VERY lucky.

I guess it's because I don't come from a poor family, if I did maybe they'd ask for, you never know.

I guess I'm lucky. My family and friends would never ask me for money or to buy them anything.

You are VERY lucky.

[Vi Mazzella 4]

We are blessed! My family never asks for monye they keep ask me if we need money, isn't that funny? and this year they are inviting us to go to visit them to Peru, they want to pay for our tkts but we don' t feel comfortable enough I know they are my family but we can afford it.

Vi

[bora bora 1]

We're also lucky because my husband's family never asks us for money - or anything for that matter. We have collected some things that we want to send to his brother since he has a family (with small kids), but we have yet to send anything.

On the other hand, my husband's "aquaintances" are quick to send messages to him asking for Nike shoes, a laptop, clothes, etc. Mr. borabora always says yes and that if they send him money he'll buy and ship it out to them. That's when the conversation ends.

My husband has very few people of whom he'd call his friends - and they NEVER ask for anything. These are the people that will receive gifts when we go back to visit.

[Dimples876 0]

what a great topic.........they think America is a bed or Roses and it's not. I still aint find that pot of gold @the end of the rainbow yet.

My in-laws don't usually ask me anything personally but they do ask my husband all the time. so and so school fee due, need medicine and who needs to go to the doctors. He be all stressed out about it and he is the 3rd youngest out of 7 kids but he's the one that they call on.

I tell him all the time I don't like to talk to your sister because she always begging money even though she doesn't come out and ask i know she wants to and I can support her and her 5 kids and husband.

In America I'm considered the working Poor even though the government doesn't think so I do.

[Jengles 0]

This is why we will NEVER live in my husband's country. He gets it all the time because he has an American wife, but it's worse when I visit. We have to "hold court" every morning. The living room is full of people waiting for us to wake up so they can ask my husband for money. To deny them would seem stingy, and, of course, we want to help out as much as we can. There is no way they can understand that while compared to them we are rich, we have responsibilities back home that we simply cannot ignore because we want to help them out. It is very frustrating. When our daughter was born my husband looked at her and said, "You will have a lot of responsibility." I nearly collapsed with the weight of the realization of what I had brought her into.

I would have said no she doesn't and 10 to 1 she won't feel that same sense of responsibility your husband does,

[Jengles 0]

When I met my wife her family were squatters, living in a tiny shack by the side of the road. They lived from day to day, with whatever small amount of money her father could make doing farm labor.

They never asked us for a penny.

I was so inspired (and humbled) I bought them a little piece of land and I am now building a simple small house for them. They are very thankful for that, and I feel fortunate to be able to do it.

They still don't ask for anything.

that is beautiful

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

When I met my wife her family were squatters, living in a tiny shack by the side of the road. They lived from day to day, with whatever small amount of money her father could make doing farm labor.

They never asked us for a penny.

I was so inspired (and humbled) I bought them a little piece of land and I am now building a simple small house for them. They are very thankful for that, and I feel fortunate to be able to do it.

They still don't ask for anything.

that is beautiful

yeah mon mi a falla u...wah u a do ovah yahso...galang back ovah so

[Jengles 0]

When I met my wife her family were squatters, living in a tiny shack by the side of the road. They lived from day to day, with whatever small amount of money her father could make doing farm labor.

They never asked us for a penny.

I was so inspired (and humbled) I bought them a little piece of land and I am now building a simple small house for them. They are very thankful for that, and I feel fortunate to be able to do it.

They still don't ask for anything.

that is beautiful

yeah mon mi a falla u...wah u a do ovah yahso...galang back ovah so

U are too funny, i saw a good topic and had to give some input.

[Zee Bee 61]

This is how it goes in my family:

1. Calls at all hours of the morning/night because no matter how many times you tell them, they do not understand the concept of time difference.

2. When I say "Hello" I get a very hurried "Call me back".

3. I call back and there is a freaking laundry list of demands. And these are not "We have no food. We need to pay for medical bills" Its "I want a laptop" "Can I get an mp3 player" "I would like a Game Cube" #######? So, I very graciously hang up and get back to sleep. Before I went home last year my cousin asked for an iPod and I ripped him a new one.

So this is what I learned: to give out my cell number and turn it off at night. My sisters and my parents have my home number and can call if it is an emergency. If anyone "flashes" me, I don't call back. If someone says "call me back" I don't call back. If they have something to say, they have learned they had better have the units to call. Period. End of story.

What is the excuse they give when I ask why they need these things? "Eh, we also want to show that we have a sister in the US" Like I am some kind of status symbol

Neither my family nor my fiance's family NEED us to do anything for them. Anything we give them will be because we have extra and can do for them but not out of necessity.

[panamania79 2]

My step-brother once told my dad that he needed $5k because he going to be kidnapped. Whatever.

Diana

That's just terrible.

[panamania79 2]

We're also lucky because my husband's family never asks us for money - or anything for that matter. We have collected some things that we want to send to his brother since he has a family (with small kids), but we have yet to send anything.

On the other hand, my husband's "aquaintances" are quick to send messages to him asking for Nike shoes, a laptop, clothes, etc. Mr. borabora always says yes and that if they send him money he'll buy and ship it out to them. That's when the conversation ends.

My husband has very few people of whom he'd call his friends - and they NEVER ask for anything. These are the people that will receive gifts when we go back to visit.

What is this infatuation everybody has with Nikes ? If I see or hear about a pair of Jordans one more time,I'm gonna scream !