Differences with spouse or fiance.

[panamania79 2]

Since my friends at the USCIS have a different story for me every day.I usually let my fiance what's going on from time to time.Sometimes,we end up in an argument over this.Has anyone experienced anything similar ?

[Minya's wife 24]

Since my friends at the USCIS have a different story for me every day.I usually let my fiance what's going on from time to time.Sometimes,we end up in an argument over this.Has anyone experienced anything similar ?

Your fiancee gets upset over things you tell her that other friends have told you? I don't understand, what kind of stories are talking about?

-P

[trailmix 77]

Since my friends at the USCIS have a different story for me every day.I usually let my fiance what's going on from time to time.Sometimes,we end up in an argument over this.Has anyone experienced anything similar ?

Your fiancee gets upset over things you tell her that other friends have told you? I don't understand, what kind of stories are talking about?

-P

I think he is saying that he shares the stories he is told from USCIS and they sometimes argue about that.

[panamania79 2]

Since my friends at the USCIS have a different story for me every day.I usually let my fiance what's going on from time to time.Sometimes,we end up in an argument over this.Has anyone experienced anything similar ?

Your fiancee gets upset over things you tell her that other friends have told you? I don't understand, what kind of stories are talking about?

-P

Sorry,let me make myself clear.USCIS has a new story for me every day,he finds them to be so unbelievable.We end up getting in an argument over that.

Since my friends at the USCIS have a different story for me every day.I usually let my fiance what's going on from time to time.Sometimes,we end up in an argument over this.Has anyone experienced anything similar ?

Your fiancee gets upset over things you tell her that other friends have told you? I don't understand, what kind of stories are talking about?

-P

I think he is saying that he shares the stories he is told from USCIS and they sometimes argue about that.

Topo Gigio is so cute.We end up arguing over the outlandish stories USCIS tells me about our case.

[panamania79 2]

Since my friends at the USCIS have a different story for me every day.I usually let my fiance what's going on from time to time.Sometimes,we end up in an argument over this.Has anyone experienced anything similar ?

Your fiancee gets upset over things you tell her that other friends have told you? I don't understand, what kind of stories are talking about?

-P

BTW: I'm a girl and my fiance's a guy.

[trailmix 77]

Topo Gigio is so cute.We end up arguing over the outlandish stories USCIS tells me about our case.

Sorry I called you a he and you are a she.

Well we don't argue about USCIS stuff, but we both live together in Canada, so my Husband knows all about this process.

I suspect her frustration is with USCIS and not you, hence the arguments - if you were on the receiving end of this stuff, not getting it first hand, it would be even more annoying I should think - you would probably think - that makes no sense and be frustrated with the other person for not forcing USCIS to give you some 'normal' or 'sensible' answer - just my thoughts.

I never had to contact USCIS about our IR1, and I'm glad. However - when I was documenting my US Citizenship I spoke with them many times - it was just as frustrating and pointless calling as it is when you call about immigration. I had many conversations with many people who had no idea what they were talking about or just didn't bother to listen.

The best story is the time I finally called the toll line they have here for USCIS information - I was calling about the N-600 (certificate of citizenship). I don't remember how much they charge a minute, but I was on hold for a long time. When I finally got through the person didn't know what an N-600 was, I ended up having to explain it to them and it cost me $36 to do that!

Anyway, I don't know if you are looking for advice, but my suggestion would be to tell your fiance EVERYTHING you hear from USCIS and everything you hear about USCIS. I would encourage him to join VJ. The more he knows about this process the better it will be.

Good luck

Edited January 18, 2008 by trailmix

[panamania79 2]

Topo Gigio is so cute.We end up arguing over the outlandish stories USCIS tells me about our case.

Sorry I called you a he and you are a she.

Well we don't argue about USCIS stuff, but we both live together in Canada, so my Husband knows all about this process.

I suspect her frustration is with USCIS and not you, hence the arguments - if you were on the receiving end of this stuff, not getting it first hand, it would be even more annoying I should think - you would probably think - that makes no sense and be frustrated with the other person for not forcing USCIS to give you some 'normal' or 'sensible' answer - just my thoughts.

I never had to contact USCIS about our IR1, and I'm glad. However - when I was documenting my US Citizenship I spoke with them many times - it was just as frustrating and pointless calling as it is when you call about immigration. I had many conversations with many people who had no idea what they were talking about or just didn't bother to listen.

The best story is the time I finally called the toll line they have here for USCIS information - I was calling about the N-600 (certificate of citizenship). I don't remember how much they charge a minute, but I was on hold for a long time. When I finally got through the person didn't know what an N-600 was, I ended up having to explain it to them and it cost me $36 to do that!

Anyway, I don't know if you are looking for advice, but my suggestion would be to tell your fiance EVERYTHING you hear from USCIS and everything you hear about USCIS. I would encourage him to join VJ. The more he knows about this process the better it will be.

Good luck

The thing of it is some people in Panama think so highly of the USA,that they just cannot beleive that the USCIS could fall behind,mess up,or tell people stories.They really do not know how the system works here so they think the USA is perfect.

[Minya's wife 24]

Anyway, I don't know if you are looking for advice, but my suggestion would be to tell your fiance EVERYTHING you hear from USCIS and everything you hear about USCIS. I would encourage him to join VJ. The more he knows about this process the better it will be.

Good luck

Yup, what trailmix said!

Unless the foreign fiancee/spouse has had to go through some sort of immigration or visa getting process in their home country, they have no inkling...no frame of reference. We may think we're sparing them by not going into extreme detail about the process, but if they don't know what this entails, and only get bits and pieces, of course that it may seem incredible to them. I was lucky, my fiancee (now hubby) went through the process of getting conditional residency in Hungary before we began our 'journey' so he was somewhat familiar w/ the bureaucracy. So when I told him about the inefficiency, inconsistency and insanity that is USCIS, he understood and didn't argue.

Good luck,

-P

[panamania79 2]

Anyway, I don't know if you are looking for advice, but my suggestion would be to tell your fiance EVERYTHING you hear from USCIS and everything you hear about USCIS. I would encourage him to join VJ. The more he knows about this process the better it will be.

Good luck

Yup, what trailmix said!

Unless the foreign fiancee/spouse has had to go through some sort of immigration or visa getting process in their home country, they have no inkling...no frame of reference. We may think we're sparing them by not going into extreme detail about the process, but if they don't know what this entails, and only get bits and pieces, of course that it may seem incredible to them. I was lucky, my fiancee (now hubby) went through the process of getting conditional residency in Hungary before we began our 'journey' so he was somewhat familiar w/ the bureaucracy. So when I told him about the inefficiency, inconsistency and insanity that is USCIS, he understood and didn't argue.

Good luck,

-P

My fiance is always saying"The USA just can't be like that,I don't believe it,Panama is like that,not the USA." So when I try to convince him otherwise,we start arguing.I'll never forget the time we fought on the IM.

[Minya's wife 24]

Tell him there is no such thing as Utopia. Government bureaucracy is the same everywhere...mierda es mierda, no importa en que pais se encuentra.

[panamania79 2]

Tell him there is no such thing as Utopia. Government bureaucracy is the same everywhere...mierda es mierda, no importa en que pais se encuentra.

Bien dicho ! Como el piensa que aca en los EEUU todo es color de rosa,hay arboles de billete de 20,y que todos somos ricos,eso es lo que nos pasa aveces.Since one of his classmates from high school got married and was in the USA in a matter of 2 months,and he has been sitting there waiting for 8,that's why he gets an attitude.

[Minya's wife 24]

He should be concentrating on his situation and not comparing it to anyone else's. But that's just MO.

Definitely you should keep him abreast of all the happenings in your case....the good and the bad, and in between try as much as possible not to talk visa and immigration. Maybe that may help take the edge off.

-P

[Zee Bee 61]

My fiance and I steered clear from any immigration talk. When I submitted the initial petition he said "Don't tewll me anything about it until we get appproved". Of course, he comes onto VJ and when there was the slow down with May petitions he started getting agitated and I said "Honey, you said you did not want to talk about this". So we didn't, until we got approved.

[trailmix 77]

Just tell him to be NICE to you, you are already having a hard enough time dealing with USCIS

[panamania79 2]

Just tell him to be NICE to you, you are already having a hard enough time dealing with USCIS

I will.lol

Thanks.